Family Vent & Advice please :)

[Traceyssel]

I dont need any judgemental comments from people who haven't been in my position.

So anyways, lately, I've been talking with some close family members about situation with BD and two of them asked me the rudest question. "WHY did you sleep with him?", "Were you drunk or something?" Seriously, as much as I dislike my son's biological father, my son changed my world. He is the best thing that has happened to me and I love him so dearly. Yes, I don't like his father, but I don't regret making my son. It pisses me off when they ask that.

Have people you know ask you questions like that? How did you reply?

[animebuddy]

They haven't asked questions like that, but some comments were made like I don't know what you ever saw in him. My reply as I was blind.

[Traceyssel]

Quoting animebuddy:

They haven't asked questions like that, but some comments were made like I don't know what you ever saw in him. My reply as I was blind.

I get that same comment. I'm just stunned people would say that. it's so rude.

[BonneVie]

My ex husband is a piece of work. I wish he would fall off the face of the earth. But I don't regret marrying him for one second, though...because of my kids. But my family constantly asks why I married him, says what a loser he was, they all "knew" it, and so on. It grates on my nerves, but they do it because they love me so I let it go.

[Robsessed98]

Sure, I've been asked that a lot.  I just tell them it was temporary insanity.

[Meagie]

Sometimes it takes a while to see someones "true" colours... At least that's how it was for me and by the time I did my little one was already on the way.

[rae021]

Yup all the time. I don't think I was crazy, or that my bd was always terrible just that people change and react different to life. And he took a diff, less responsible path then I did. Bc at some point he did make me very happy and honestly if I didn't have my dd I would have never seen his faults or my own and i would prob still be dealing with him, being chested ok, depressed, abused emotionally and so on. She was exactly what I needed.she opened my eyes and my love for her, made me really understand that he didn't control my happiness, and I do more with my life now then I ever did before her. People are rude. Next time just tell them life happens! What you choose to do with it, is what really matters now how you got there!