So I was at the library with my kids and just so happend that the chair I sat down in had a book right next to it... about being a single mom. I read only the first chapter and it mostly talked about the mistakes other moms have made as a single parent and how every parent makes mistakes but never got into to much detail. So I figured I'd write a post asking what other moms have been through that could be advise for other moms. Or maybe even talk about any insecurites that someone else could give advise too!!!
I have insecurities about my oldest daughter. She is so outgoing and very pretty, and has had a very rough past with BD. What age should I start allowing sleep overs? and what might be to much with her asking questions to complete strangers....
My daughter (although she has many siblings from her father) is being raised as an only child so she has no one to play with and as you all know being a single mom no one else will do everything that needs to be done shopping, cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc so I dont have time to play with her and even when im done doing everyting im tired (confession here: also I dont want to play the games a child wants to play i know that sounds harsh but i am an adult and i dont find playing with dolls entertaining sorry but that is just how i feel) so I feel very guilty that my daughter is lonely and I wish she had a sibling to grow up with but I am absolutely done haveing kids im 41 and not in a committed relationship or financially stable so having a baby is out of the question and I do play with her sometimes its not like i go in my room close the door and ignore her but she wants to be entertained all the time and that is just not possible
Quoting sketchmonster:
I started dating someone else too soon after BD and I broke up. My daughter got really attached to him. She was only 5 months old when we got together, 7 months when we broke up...thank god.
I have made that mistake. My sons father I met right after my divorce with my two dd's fathers divorce. Biggest mistake ever and was with him for two years. I've been single now for just over a year and it's been the happiest I've ever been...
Quoting Serenitymom:
Quoting sketchmonster:
I started dating someone else too soon after BD and I broke up. My daughter got really attached to him. She was only 5 months old when we got together, 7 months when we broke up...thank god.
I have made that mistake. My sons father I met right after my divorce with my two dd's fathers divorce. Biggest mistake ever and was with him for two years. I've been single now for just over a year and it's been the happiest I've ever been...
One thing that I learned from being raised by a single mother, she married when I was about 8, was to not talk negatively about my dd's father. My mother used to do it all the time and it made things worse for me with dealing with men when I was younger.
I've made a point to never talk up or down about my dd's SD, she has made her own decisions aobut him and she doesn't have as many issues regarding men that I see some of her friends have.
My daughter doesn't like my boyfriend.
- Serenitymom
on Jun. 30, 2012 at 1:24 AM