Quoting elisesmom922:My SD8 does this too, she also has ADHD. The counselor told us its a process thing. They understand instant gratification vs waiting or outright NO. I would get him a good counselor, it gets better with time. When SD does this, we just tell her to take three deep breaths and try to TELL us whats wrong, and if she can't do it, we just say OK that's fine, we will talk about it later and go about what we were doing. Later we talk about it and why it happened, and how we can be better next time.
Quoting Zacknalexmom:
That's a good idea. My son is ADHD and takes medication for it. i have thought of confiding in my sons pediatrician about referring him to see a counselor or therapist.
Quoting amonkeymom:Have you considered taking him to see a counselor? It sounds like he has a lot of pent-up emotions that talking to someone neutral could help.
Don't overreact like my sister did. When she got remarried, my nephew was like that. So her DH convinced her to put him on horomones. Mind you he had seen his mom divorce not 1 but two men for being...well I am trying to keep it clean so I'll just say bad. So I think he had a right to be kinda emotional! but yeah now he is a walking zombie with no emotions
Sounds like he's got some issues to work out, as do you. Embarassed by your crying child? You should be trying to get to the bottom of it without making him feel worse. How long ago was the court order to keep his father away? That could possibly be bothering him deep down. Calling him a cry baby and spanking him for doing it is just wrong!! What an awful thing to call your own son. I sure hope you don't say that to his face! Please, get the poor child some counseling and work on your motherly instincts.
I agree that you should ck on a therapist for him. Also, ck with his pediatrician as his ADHD meds might not be the right one or the right dosage. You didn't say what he was on. Do your own research to ck on the side effects of what he's taking. Ck out other possibilities.... Vyvanse, Concerta, Adderall, Ritilin. I personally was on Adderall, worked like a charm. My DS was on Concerta. SS has just been changed to another one.
Spanking probably wont help. My boy went through a phase like that when he was about that age and his sister was born. I weighed the pros and cons of laying some kind of macho trip on him and eventually decided society is society and society frowns on a weepy little boy. And I sat him down and told him "Listen. I want to explain something to you. It's perfectly okay to cry when you're sad. Everybody cries. But, you should only cry when something is really really sad. Like if somebody dies. You're too old and too much of a big boy to cry when you don't get your way." I basically told him to man up. Surprisingly it kind of worked. The water works have dramatically decreased.
I would judiciously ignore him in the store and then deal with it at home. If a child gets his own way because he acts up in public, he'll learn that that's all he has to do to get what he wants. He may be stressed about the divorce, but you can address that without letting it become an excuse for misbehavior.
My daughter doesn't like my boyfriend.
- Zacknalexmom
on Jun. 30, 2012 at 10:45 AM