My son is going to meet his father and his siblings for the first time today. I am very excited for him.... He has had soooooo many questions. He had made up a group of siblings that don't live with grown ups. He always asks if random men (black, white, Indian... you name it) "Is he my daddy?" When I say no he asks "Does he know my Daddy?" At least after this week he stop asking the first question!
His father and family will be here for week... Should I let my little man spend the night with them? (Granted this is if my son does alright with them through the day). I am not really in his step mothers fan club! What do you think ladies?
So last night went very well... The wife really isn't as crazy as I thought. My son took to the other kids like they have always been together. He was excited to have people around him with the same last name. My son didn't want to leave the hotel, and I decided to spend the night. They have taking him to Hershey Park and a Civil War Museum. They have sent me pictures and text messages of almost everything they have been doing with him. It has been very thoughtful!
He is only four... so I don't think he will even ask to stay with them, but his father has requested an overnight or two with our son.
Quoting sid1083:
Good luck! I'd let your son take the lead as to whether or not he wants to stay the night. I think if he gets bad vibes from the step, maybe he won't even ask....
Hi I understand your dilema because my son is the same age and doesent know his father as well. His father saw him a couple of times when he was still an infant and that was it. So he is 4 now and my cousin lives with us with her 2 kids and thier father comes to see them almost every weekend. My son started calling him his daddy. i had to explain to him that wasn't his father. Then he started to say his father was dead I don't know where that came from. Now he says certain things are his daddies like a big truck or house or he will say my daddy works there. Even though he knows nothing about his father. But about your question I would not feel comfortable leaving him over night on the first meeting. I would gradually ease into it like letting him spend a couple of hours the first time then maybe a whole day then overnight. If he lives in another state or far away then base it off of the child see if he would be comfortable. But be prepared to get a late night phone call. Sometimes they don't understand they will stay overnight and you won't be there and they will get upset and want thier mommy. This has happened to me when my son stayed at my aunts house I had to pick him up at 2am because he wouldn't stop crying. Another thing you need to consider is the type of enviroment the father is in. My child's father smokes and all his family members smoke around children and don't care. I don't want my son to be around that type of thing. So keep that in mind as well. Hope this helps GOOD LUCK!!!!
Kids say the craziest things! I'm going to leave him with them in their hotel suit for a few hours and maybe later in the week he can do one sleepover. This will be hi first night away from the family he knows. LOL his night with my sister and her family certainly didn't go well and he sees her every other weekend.
Quoting butler115:Hi I understand your dilema because my son is the same age and doesent know his father as well. His father saw him a couple of times when he was still an infant and that was it. So he is 4 now and my cousin lives with us with her 2 kids and thier father comes to see them almost every weekend. My son started calling him his daddy. i had to explain to him that wasn't his father. Then he started to say his father was dead I don't know where that came from. Now he says certain things are his daddies like a big truck or house or he will say my daddy works there. Even though he knows nothing about his father. But about your question I would not feel comfortable leaving him over night on the first meeting. I would gradually ease into it like letting him spend a couple of hours the first time then maybe a whole day then overnight. If he lives in another state or far away then base it off of the child see if he would be comfortable. But be prepared to get a late night phone call. Sometimes they don't understand they will stay overnight and you won't be there and they will get upset and want thier mommy. This has happened to me when my son stayed at my aunts house I had to pick him up at 2am because he wouldn't stop crying. Another thing you need to consider is the type of enviroment the father is in. My child's father smokes and all his family members smoke around children and don't care. I don't want my son to be around that type of thing. So keep that in mind as well. Hope this helps GOOD LUCK!!!!
Any chance they might take off with him? Don't live out of the country do they? I think I'd take him home the first few nights, then decide if they have a place for him to sleep. Good luck in making that decision. make sure you get the overall take on how they get along. Do you have enough information to think they may be somewhat stable? Is he paying child support? If not, this is a time to get contempt of court when he comes back into the state. It sounds as though this will be good for your son to seehe has a daddy too.
Good news, im so excited!
- Tashia07
on Jul. 1, 2012 at 11:30 AM