I'm tired of coming last...

[Chelsea_Barrett]

I sometimes feel as if my sons dad chooses his friends over us,..were not together but he wants me to stay committed to him as if we are, but he doesn't want to commit to me. While we have been trying to work things out it seems as if he still chooses his friends and his parents over my son and I,..I don't know what to do,..earlier we had plans like we do every Sunday to cook dinner and spend the day together and watch movies with our son,..well his parents get ahold of him and they call him to come over and my sons dad completely just drops what we had planned to go to HIS parents house without us. When I tried later to explain to him that Weston and I are his family and that we should come first he didn't understand or care to understand where I was coming from or why I was upset,..

I'm tried of coming last on his priority list im tired of feeling like nothing I say or do matters anymore,..Im tired of feeling like I'm standing in a crowded room screaming and no one seems to even hear me,..am I overreacting? I need some input

-Chelsea

[faerie75]

Then stop letting him walk on you. You know what he's doing. When you are ready, you will stop tolerating it.

[brieri]

 Hi and welcome to the group.

Did you not bring up the fact to him he should have had you come along to go to his parents house?

[kagegirl]

Ok, you need to nip this shit in the bud. You committed to him but not vice versa??? Um, NO!!!! He will continue to act like this if you continue to be his doormat.

[happymommy1105]

So stop letting him treat you that way.

Don't commit to him if he won't commit to you.

Don't make plans or count on him.

Move on.

[Chanel5nyc]

Quoting faerie75:

Then stop letting him walk on you. You know what he's doing. When you are ready, you will stop tolerating it.

[heidimoose134]

You cannot make him do anything that he does not want to do. The only one responsible for his behavior (as well as changing that behavior) is him. 

I do agree with a PP, I would nip this in the bud before it really starts to affect your son emotionally. 

Your situation sounds similar to mine with my kids' dad. Usually on his days off he chooses to hang out with his friends over coming to see the kids, and when he does come it's only for about 30 minutes or so. When I used to live with him it was the same thing. It's one of the reasons I chose to bounce (besides the dead relationship).

[SinceresMomma]

Well first of you two aren't together so what are you committing yourself to him for. He just wants to keep you available and he knows that he can. He treats you that way because you let. Youll realize you need to walk away when you've had enough.

[Mommyto2LilMen]

Hello and welcome. Why do you commit to him if he won't do so for you. I say move on, sorry hun.

[enathalivo78]

I am in the same boat. We are supposed to be trying to work things out, but he is out with his friends and partying and always chooses spending time with them over us. Sometimes I feel like letting him go because I have had enough, but stop mainly for my son. I don't want my son to grow up without his dad.

I figure as long as he wants to "stay married" I should stay and be committed. My main worry is the growing resentment towards him. I hate them for putting us through this.

[Mia1983]

Exactly.

Quoting SinceresMomma:

Well first of you two aren't together so what are you committing yourself to him for. He just wants to keep you available and he knows that he can. He treats you that way because you let. Youll realize you need to walk away when you've had enough.