Hello everyone. My name is Cristina and Im new to this group.
I have 2 children by my soon to be xhusband. We split May 2011, but as of March of this year we finally got our divorce started. Now, Im waiting to get my new restraining order in the mail so we can do mediation. I refuse to see him in person (he hit me when i finally left), so im having the restraining order changed so i can talk to him over the phone for mediation. Im really scared how that is going to go. He has already been calling DHS annonymously and acting worried when he 'hears' about it. Making up lies about my kids getting hurt and such. Like the other day my son tripped over his scooter and bumped his head pretty good. He was telling DHS that he believes my uncle beat him up. yea right.
Well besides the divorce and the crap i have to go through with that, after almost a year of being separated i finally started dating. i was a little scared at first. being controled and emotianally and mentally hurt by my ex, i was afraid to end up with another guy like that. i started to date this guy because all my uncles, aunts, cousins, (basically the whole damn family and neighbors) were telling me he was a good guy. at first i didn't care. after a couple weeks i finally gave him a shot. well actually my lil uncle tricked me into hanging out with him. we stayed up and watched 3 movies. i dont even remember the movies cuz we were talking so much. at first i didnt want him around my kids. i wanted to get to know him first. i started to really like him. he has no kids and didnt want any (why he started dating me idk). so when i started to introduce my kids i started with my son since he was the oldest. i was worried, but my BF really liked him. Even talked me into taking them to the park and plays out in the yard with him. always worried if my EX will bring them back. After i noticed he wasn't worried about my son i started to bring my daughter around more. he thinks she is adorable. now he gets upset if i dont ask him to go on walks with us. he loves to just hang out. Now we have been together for almost 3 months. right now the kids are with their dad and he cant wait till the get back tomorrow. i cant believe he misses them.
right now we are looking into getting our own place. it sucks because he had to cut down on his work hours. he wants to get his GED so he can do more. He says he wants to do it for me and my kids, but i want him to do it for himself. So his checks are half. as for me, well i deal with social anxiety. im afraid to be around people. (which says something since im able to be around him). so right now im getting by on FIP (somewhat). Im trying to get SSI, but so far ive been denied once. idk what im going to do if i keep getting denied. im seeing a doctor for help, but its not working. i guess we will take it one day at a time and figure it out.
For now, im happy and in love with a great guy and two wonderful children. :)