Hi I am Handsomeboys,
I am recently divorced after 13 years of marriage with 2 boys, and starting over in my mid 40's can we say very scary. I am looking for support groups to keep me uplifted and hopefully some great advice. My story goes like this...I want to move out of California to go back home to my family in North Carolina. My ex-husband had been inconsitant in showing up for his court ordered visit. I made sure to put a schedule in our divorce decre, but he remarried 1 month after we got divorced since then he not kept his court ordered visitation. Wanting to have more family support in my life with raising boys I petition the courts to move back East. The courts ordered a mediation hearing for my ex, myself and the boys. The mediation report can out in my favor my ex opposed the ruling and we had to go to trial. We had to have people come in and testify on our behalf about our relationship with the boys and our character as parents. My ex brought his current wife of less than a year and his stepson who was over 20 years old. I brought the childrens godmother of 17 years and my youngest son 3rd grade teacher of 7 years. My witness were very respectful and state that they did not feel the my ex did not love his children he just was way to inconsistant in his visitation and the promises that he would make to the boys. His side stated they were out for every visit and stated that I would not bring the boys to the drop off location. My ex also went to court and stated that my son who he has raised since he was 3 who is now 17 was not his son in court cutting him off of his medical insurance. This is an action that he has never done before. I did not have the boys come to court to testify against their father because they stated that they did not want to hurt his feeling anymore. Meaning that they told the mediator as well as their father that they did not want to live with him. I also stated it once again in front of the judge of what the boys wanted. Nevertheless the judge just made her ruling in favor of my ex stating that I did not allow him to see his boys. Which was so far from the truth, so if anyone could direct me on case law getting the ruling reversed it would be most needed. He is still not following the court order and continues to lie about his actions as well as his wife. I wish I could say he really wants to have custody, but that would be me lying he only wants to stop paying the child support.
I know this was a long introduction, but I am in an area that I do not understand.