Bf and his ex wife have been divorced since their daughter was 2. She is now 10 years old. So 8 years.
Unforunately, bf's ex wife has a bad back. She has to have surgery on her back. She is taking short term leave from work and will receive full pay. She will be out of work for about 3 months. She won't be able to care for her daughter during that time. So, bf will have custody of her during that time.
Bf pays alot in child support every month. He had his dad (an atty) draw up the paperwork for child support to be stopped for the time in which he has primary custody of his daughter. His dad added in the paperwork that mom be required to pay a small amount of child support during that time. Mom agreed and said nothing.
The reality then came that his daughter will not be able to attend her regular school while she is staying with us. It's just too far away. Bf has to be at work too early in the morning to take her and I am not allowed to drive. Not mention, I have to get my own child to school everyday. She is going to have to attend my son's school until she can go back to her moms house.
Mom is pitching a huge fit about the school situation because it means that in the end, her daughter will not be able to go to the school at all next year. Mom needs the surgery. Bf and I are expecting a new baby in Nov. We are struggling financially and are doing what we can for this child. It is a sucky situation, esp for the little girl. But I cannot control any part of it. Bf cannot do anything about his work schedule until Oct, which by that point- will be too late.
Mom is supposed to be laid up for 3 months, at the least. Bf will still be making sure his daughter sees her mom. Mom wants us to find a way to take her daughter to this one school and there is just no way we can do it.
Bf has flat out told her it isn't going to happen this year and that she can go back next year. That he wishes it was different but it is what it is.
Is BF wrong for basically telling Mom to get over it? Please remember BF is extremely active in his daughter's life and sees her constantly even when Mom isn't sick.