Do any of you not see your kids? How have you coped with that?
I'm getting completely screwed over my my husband and won't be able to raise my kids. I'm trying to decide what is best. I feel like it would be best for them for me to just go and them get into a stable routine without the interruption and emotional crap of visitation with me. I'm not going to have a place to see them anyway so I don't even feel like visitation is an option.
I have talked to social services and was told there wasn't really anything they could do to make it managable for me to keep the kids. He'd have to pay $775 in child support to me if I kept them. I can't work though as the daycare bill would be over $3000 a month. $775 isn't enough to keep us afloat. We would qualify for food stamps but that doesn't help much since I won't be able to pay the other bills. I was told the best advice they could give me would be to move in with family.......which I do not have.
my kids are 11, 6, 3, 11 months, and twins due in November.
I hate the thought of not being with them, but I don't see another option. The grand part is that if I work I would have to give him $1900 a month if I made $1500 a month so he could pay for daycare. So, that means I would have -$400 a month to live on.
The circumstances of the deal are that he has been having an affair for our entire marriage and I did not know. I am willing to work things out so our kids can have a decent life, ut he is not. I guess crappy people with no morals always win in the end.
I talked to an attorney. HSe said I can't get allimony and thatI'm pretty much screwed.
So, I need to know how it is to not see the kids.