Well... BD was dating this girl for a while. I knew nothing about her. I had seen her on FB as 'someone I might know' and got the courage to friend request her. She accepted. That was yesterday... I found out that they are no longer together because she got prego and he want's her to get an abortion, he wants nothing to do with the child and doesn't want to be a father... wow.
She also told me that BD doesn't want anyone to know that she is prego and will never tell DS. I think that's sad. I would want DS to know if he has a brother or sister out their. She moved to a different state because BD and his dad were pressuring her to get an abortion and sending her threats.
We talked on the phone today for about 2hrs. She seems really nice and has a head on her shoulders. We kinda talked about BD and she told me a bunch of things about him that I should know...
1 is that he was not giving me my ROFR because she was watching him
2 that BD brother had moved back in (which I already knew, no big deal) but that he's doing drugs AGAIN.
3 that BD dad has cancer (i feel bad for him) but that it is really bad with the treatments that he should not be watching a child. BD's dad watches DS while he's gone at work, without offering me ROFR.
I'm not really sure what to make of everything that just happened.... I just want to contemplate everything that I have learned and make smart choices. What would you do if you were in this situation?
I also asked her if we could stay in contact because I do want DS to know his soon to be brother or sister and she said yes.
Well, I was also informed that BD is planning on planting drugs in my car so that I can get in trouble, and that his friends are going to come to the club I work at (not sure why, but it doesn't sound good). also found out that the FBI is investigating BD's brother too...
i'm really starting to feel uneasy about everything, but the ex said that she would testify in court for me. I'm still trying to digest everything that happened today and all the new info...