How did you deal with your ex's first relationship after you guys broke up?

[Sidrosmomma]

My ex and I broke up about 4 months ago.  We have been very friendly since.  He pays child support.  He works a lot so he only gets to see the baby on Sundays.  Once in a while we'll go do something as a family.  Everything is going fine...now I'm not even interested in getting involved in a new relationship.  I'm still in love with my ex and don't want to be involved in a relationship unless it's with him. (He lied to me, so my son and I left) 

I'm sure the time will come very soon when he has a new relationship going.  What happens then?  I just know that I will be my usual self and us being friendly and so nice to each other will be strained.  How did it work with you and your ex?  Did you become friendly with his new gf?  Did you remain friendly with him even through his first post-you relationship.  I'm just afraid our relationship will change and everything is going so well right now.

[josiahmom]

it was hard but i just let him be. he is nice to me and we talk but that is all. gl.

[tina08mommy]

I don't really care he isn't in my life and it doesn't bother me. I have a boyfriend. I don't need the crap that my ex put me and kids through

[SharonHernandez]

 well he didnt get into a relationship, but he talked to this girl for a while. I was actually happy for him. But while trying to get back with me he would also talk about getting with her. But that is all over now, she is out of the picture.

[ms-superwoman]

Well my exs gf hates me. But he has told her all kinds of bs about how I want him. And he tells her that hes still in love with me. LMFAO So she thinks that I am going to steal him away. HAHA He's a real loser. By the time I left him, I hated him, so I could careless who hes with. 

[Sidrosmomma]

Maybe I should've stuck around until I hated him, then I wouldn't even think about this at all.  Ha ha ha.  Instead I left when we were both still in love with each other, but not good for each other. 

[LTryon]

It bothered me only because he was 34 and started messing around with a 16 year old (age if consent is 16 in MI, so there wasn't anything I could do). It was his nieces best friend. When I told him he was giving off a creeper child molestor vibe and that I didn't want his gf around our kids he started ditching the kids to hang out with his gf. Now that he's not seeing her anymore, he wants to play like he's super-dad (even though it'd been 2 years since he'd seen the kids). Smh. :-/

[faerie75]

I'm on the opposite side of this. My bf got divorced, had a few flings that his ex never knew about cuz they weren't important, then met me. She did not take it well. Not sure why, as She was cheating and already had a bf. she didn't do anything directly to me but she tried to control him regarding the kids and acted like an outright bitch. So don't do that. It's understandable to feel hurt and maybe jealous but as long as she is polite to you or doesn't overstep with your kids, it's not her fault. Also you need to recognize what you can control. You can't control when he chooses to let your kid meet her. You can discuss with him To wait until its serious but it's up to him just as its up to you when you move on.

It's not required to be buddy buddy with her, just be polite. And I recommend only dealing with your kids dad when it comes to issues with the kids. Don't go through her.

This may be a long way off so don't worry until it is a reality. If you and he are civil, talk to him about it.

[brieri]

 It was good before he had the woman in her life.  Once she in the picture, she was there with him at every pick up time and was causing  problems.  He couldn't see it.  

[bzmum1]

kinda sorta in the same kind of situation. My childs father and i split before she even turned 1 she is 21 mnths now. We have been through our ups and downs in and out of a relationship. Its hard because i still want to be with him. Im unsure if he's dating yet, but i know i will get jealous becuase i want to be with him.

[lulubugg]

 it crushed me, we were still married and moved her into MY home :( but now I think about it and its oh well, he lost everything!! he thought he could do better and ended up a broke meth head!! :) carma