I am currently a single mother of 3 girls 14, 12, 11. I have a fiancee, a man that I have known for 25 years, and once been married to. We had a rough first marriage, but we are blaming that on being young and stupid. After I left him the first time, I remarried a man (my girls father) that was highly abusive to me and my girls. He has since past away in 2005. I am back with my first husband (current fiancee). My two younger ones is taking to him ok, even calling him dad, and making him feel comfortable and welcome in the home. My 14 year old however, just wants it to be us 4 and no other person in the house or my life. She finally opened up last night and said she does not like him and doesn't want him in the house and if he tells her to do anything or yells at her she will leave permanently. She has been showing attitudes big time, and she went as far as slicing her wrists last night as well. I dont know what to do, because the two of them keep bumping heads (my fiancee and my 14 year old). I want my daughter to be happy, but I want to be happy too. I know she is afraid of him being abusive, but isn't my life to make that choice. I really don't know what to do?
Thanx for any help
on Dec. 5, 2007 at 7:16 AM