Welfare abusers! Never thought it would be in my family!
okay ladies, let me first say, I do not think there is anything wrong with getting help through the welfare system when you are down on luck, or working towards something better. That said, I am SO TIRED OF PEOPLE ABUSING THESE RESOURCES! I had my son a few days after I turned 19. I have only my high school diploma. I do not receive child support or share custody of my child. I was raised by parents without college degrees, who worked hard to provide for us and tried to teach us to be moral people. My fiance left 7 months ago leaving me to raise my son alone. I live 200 miles from my family. I'm getting to the point, I promise!
My sister, who has always been the golden child, is married. She now has 3 children. She chose to leave her husband and the third child is with her new boyfriend who also has 2 children. Although she and her husband have been seperated for well over a year, they have not filed for divorce because they "can't afford to." My sister receives food stamps, medicaid, and daycare assistance even though her boyfriend works and she works. She only works part time and has repeatedly turned down oppurtunities to work full time. She is able bodied and has no reason not to work part time. my parents pretty much always have her older kids. I have not spoken to her since I found out that her and her bf bought a horse. They also have 14 cows, a mule, several cats, and a dog. They have 2 pick ups and an SUV. I just found out that they bought another horse!!!!!!! Seriously? Maybe I'm wrong to be upset but.....i work 40 hours a week minimum and struggle to make ends meet. I did get assitance when my son was younger, and worked my ass off to get a better job and get off the system. So how do people like her get to have everything handed to them? and why the hell am i busting my ass when i could be better off not working? And most of all, how do 2 people raised in the same home have such different values?
There is so much more I could say about my sister and her miserable "parenting"....jus wondering if anyone else is fed up with watching people use and abuse the welfare system?
If she is committing welfare fraud then TURN HER IN. Call the PA office and report her. You do NOT have to give your name. They can be made to pay ALL the money back...for foodstamps, medicaid and child care. They can also be fined and spend time in jail. DO NOT let her get away with it.
And there are a whole let less people abusing the welfare system than people think.
Welcome to the group. I agree with you, too many people abuse the system which makes it hard for people who need the help to get it. If you really think she is commiting fraud, turn her sorry ass in.
What infuriates me is when people getting assistance want to bitch about what they aren't getting or complain about governmental rules surrounding what they are getting. I used to work in a grocery store and I regularly had people complain about how WIC made them get only certain products and certain sizes or they'd fuss about having to pay sales tax on the nonfood items they purchased along with their food stamp purchases. Some people appreciate nothing and think they are owed every handout imaginable.
I kind of agree with this.
But if your morals mean more than your bond with your sister, then turn her in but don't complain when she cuts you off in her life.
Family is always a hard situation. It's easier if it's a non-relative, but honestly, I think you need to think about this first. This can be solved without being so upfront. It also sounds like you have some unsolved issues with her and are thinking about turning her in to get back.
Quoting kat8156231119:I understand your pissed and what she is doing is totally wrong, but are you REALLY going to TURN HER IN??? She is your sister. Just explain to her your feelings about it. Why the hell would anyone tell someone to torn in their own sister??? Ugh...
Ngi ne themba - I have hope.
I never said I would turn her in. nor did I say she is actually commiting fraud. Just wondering why it is she can't work full time and how she manages to qualify for all this. I do not get any assistance and I'm not complaining about the fact that i don't. I'm frustrated that she doesn't try to do any better. If I can do it alone her and her boy toy certainly ought to be able to figure it out.
And well I admit there are issues between my sister and I, I would never do anything to "get back at her"
I love my neices and nephews almost as much as my own child. I'm concerned about the standard being set. I'm also just pissed off that I'm working so hard and she wont even get a full time job. I realize I'm probably mad for the wrong reason, but either way, what she is doing is wrong. legally I think her butt is covered but morally...no.
Quoting MamasaurusPrime:
I kind of agree with this.
But if your morals mean more than your bond with your sister, then turn her in but don't complain when she cuts you off in her life.
Family is always a hard situation. It's easier if it's a non-relative, but honestly, I think you need to think about this first. This can be solved without being so upfront. It also sounds like you have some unsolved issues with her and are thinking about turning her in to get back.
Quoting kat8156231119:
I understand your pissed and what she is doing is totally wrong, but are you REALLY going to TURN HER IN??? She is your sister. Just explain to her your feelings about it. Why the hell would anyone tell someone to torn in their own sister??? Ugh...
Quoting kat8156231119:I understand your pissed and what she is doing is totally wrong, but are you REALLY going to TURN HER IN??? She is your sister. Just explain to her your feelings about it. Why the hell would anyone tell someone to torn in their own sister??? Ugh...
Just ignore it. It's not your life.
If she wants to abuse the system then that is her problem she will eventually face consequences more.
It's wrong, but again, it is not your life. If you want to do something about it then tattle on her, but if you won't then I don't know why even bother to complain.
Quoting Smashsmom:I never said I would turn her in. nor did I say she is actually commiting fraud. Just wondering why it is she can't work full time and how she manages to qualify for all this. I do not get any assistance and I'm not complaining about the fact that i don't. I'm frustrated that she doesn't try to do any better. If I can do it alone her and her boy toy certainly ought to be able to figure it out.
And well I admit there are issues between my sister and I, I would never do anything to "get back at her"
I love my neices and nephews almost as much as my own child. I'm concerned about the standard being set. I'm also just pissed off that I'm working so hard and she wont even get a full time job. I realize I'm probably mad for the wrong reason, but either way, what she is doing is wrong. legally I think her butt is covered but morally...no.
Quoting MamasaurusPrime:
I kind of agree with this.
But if your morals mean more than your bond with your sister, then turn her in but don't complain when she cuts you off in her life.
Family is always a hard situation. It's easier if it's a non-relative, but honestly, I think you need to think about this first. This can be solved without being so upfront. It also sounds like you have some unsolved issues with her and are thinking about turning her in to get back.
Quoting kat8156231119:
I understand your pissed and what she is doing is totally wrong, but are you REALLY going to TURN HER IN??? She is your sister. Just explain to her your feelings about it. Why the hell would anyone tell someone to torn in their own sister??? Ugh...
Ngi ne themba - I have hope.
Woohoo, we've decided to file for divorce
Do you think you'll ever remarry/get married?
- Smashsmom
on Jul. 18, 2012 at 9:51 PM