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Welfare abusers! Never thought it would be in my family!

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okay ladies, let me first say, I do not think there is anything wrong with getting help through the welfare system when you are down on luck, or working towards something better. That said, I am SO TIRED OF PEOPLE ABUSING THESE RESOURCES! I had my son a few days after I turned 19. I have only my high school diploma. I do not receive child support or share custody of my child. I was raised by parents without college degrees, who worked hard to provide for us and tried to teach us to be moral people.  My fiance left 7 months ago leaving me to raise my son alone. I live 200 miles from my family. I'm getting to the point, I promise!

My sister, who has always been the golden child, is married. She now has 3 children. She chose to leave her husband and the third child is with her new boyfriend who also has 2 children. Although she and her husband have been seperated for well over a year, they have not filed for divorce because they "can't afford to." My sister receives food stamps, medicaid, and daycare assistance even though her boyfriend works and she works. She only works part time and has repeatedly turned down oppurtunities to work full time. She is able bodied and has no reason not to work part time. my parents pretty much always have her older kids.  I have not spoken to her since I found out that her and her bf bought a horse. They also have 14 cows, a mule, several cats, and a dog. They have 2 pick ups and an SUV. I just found out that they bought another horse!!!!!!! Seriously? Maybe I'm wrong to be upset but.....i work 40 hours a week minimum and struggle to make ends meet. I did get assitance when my son was younger, and worked my ass off to get a better job and get off the system. So how do people like her get to have everything handed to them?  and why the hell am i busting my ass when i could be better off not working? And most of all, how do 2 people raised in the same home have such different values?

There is so much more I could say about my sister and her miserable "parenting"....jus wondering if anyone else is fed up with watching people use and abuse the welfare system?




by on Jul. 18, 2012 at 9:51 PM
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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 7:53 AM
My husband and I were seperated for two years. I got assistance for 6 months, which I might add, my husband is paying back in the form of child support to the state. I met A LOT of people who were OBVIOUSLY taking advantage of the system. Felons getting Section 8, spending their state assistance at the casino, on cigarettes and drugs, getting vouchers for clothes and to get their hair done. It was disgusting. I know people that make much more than I do when you add up all the ASSISTANCE they are getting, and I am a salaried supervisor where I work. So yes, it is disheartening to see that people sitting on their assess make more than I do working 50 to 60 hours a week. The government needs to have more employees regulating the situation and spread the help around more fairly, because too many people will always go out of their way to take advantage of the system.
by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:55 AM
Actually I am very close to my family. I have mad bad judgements but I don't make decisions that defraud the government. I also am very well aware of the percentage of welfare fraud. I have a degree in Human Services and researched it many times. I am also getting a degree in Criminal Justice. But I was raised with knowing there are consequences for actions. Family or not. You do something illegal you deal with the consequences.

Quoting kat8156231119:

People like ME??? Really ... Attitudes like MINE??? Huh...You really need to get a grip lady. And yes, think outside the box. We have one side here. DUH....I in no way said that what her sister was doing was right. All i am saying is that before you go telling someone to call on their sister, find out both sides of the story. Im sorry that you are not close with your family. And Im so glad to see that there is one person on this earth who has never made a bad judgement. I guess you have never broken any speed limit, EVER huh. 

Bottom line, your closed minded and you need to get a life. If the system was not so broken, there would not be things like this going on. If you are so worried about it, do something to fix it, instead of replying to my comment with all of your CAPS. 

Oh, and here's some food for thought. Everyone is so damn worried about the welfare system. If you do your research, it only makes up for a small percentage of our tax dollars. what about all of the other things our tax dollars are wasted on? Or how many times the goverment, whether it be local, state, or federal, have screwed the American people? And your going to get pissed over this? Something you do not have both sides to? Yeah, open that brain of yours. Sometimes you need to pick your battles. Her reporting her sister on something she may not have all the details of or possibly loosing her sister and her nieces/nephews over because her sister has poor judgement is not worth it. Yeah, thats thinking outside the box. There  are better ways to handle the situation before one should even think of doing as you have stated. Sorry you dont like my opinion and its a shame I dont agree with yours. Lets just leave it at that. 

Quoting tyfry7496:

 Her  sister is doing something ILLEGAL that can affect a lot of other people. People that DESERVE and NEED public assistance and can't get it because people like her sister are abusing the system. Then there are people like you who don't think they should be turned in. I am NOT perfect but I don't lie to get something I am not entitiled to or need. Attitudes like yours are why so many people get away with defruading the government and some people's kids are starving.

People that committt ILLEGAL acts DESERVE to be arrested, tried and charged. What better ways are there to stop someone who is committing an ILLEGAL act? This goes beyond "bad judgement", this is ILLEGAL behavior that affects others, causes taxes to be raised too.

So, please don't tell me how to think or what adivice to give. I stand by my advice. If you don't like it. too bad. I do NOT step outside the box when it's an ILLEGAL ACT. YOU DO THE CRIME, YOU DO THE TIME. If sister was worried about her kids, she wouldn't be committing illegal acts.

Quoting kat8156231119:

While I agree with your stance on tough love, I do not agree you should be advising someone to turn in their own sister. There are always two sides to every story and here you are only hearing one of them. Im not saying at all that the original poster is wrong in any way for her feelings on the matter. I AM saying that when giving advice, others should really open up their minds and step outside of the box. We are, each of us, humans. Humans are flawed. Unless you are some type of super human and you are not capable of making bad judgements, you really should not be so quick to judge one's behavior unless you know the entire story. And even then, if you cant understand someone else's behavior, try walking a mile in their shoes. Of course what her sister is doing is not right. But its her sister. And there are a ton of better ways to help then CALLING ON HER and GETTING HER OWN SISTER INTO TROUBLE. Keep in mind that its not only her sister who will be effected, she has children as well. 

Quoting tyfry7496:

I said I would turn her in not the original poster. I don't care who a person is, if they are committing a crime I will turn them in, including my own child. I raised my son knowing that his every action has a consequence and if he's not ready to do the time he shouldn't do the crime. Mean? Cruel? Yep, tough love is sometimes the best solution to the problem.

Quoting kat8156231119:

I understand your pissed and what she is doing is totally wrong, but are you REALLY going to TURN HER IN??? She is your sister. Just explain to her your feelings about it. Why the hell would anyone tell someone to torn in their own sister??? Ugh...


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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 3:15 PM
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I agree with tyfry7496 100%!!

there is an anonymous hotline that u can call, even if u suspect it. Maybe by law she isnt doing anything wrong, but by consumer standards and American taxpayer perspective, she is CHOOSING to be lazy by only working part time to maintain her benefits. Why should we, as a whole, have to pull 40+ hours a week, away from our families just to feed and clothe them. While I dont disagree with kids having healthcare available for a lower cost or free, I find it detestable that she has the nerve to flaunt her or his money by having high end vehicles and additional expenses by housing livestock.

Snitching is turning someone in to see them fail

Integrity is doing to right thing whether or not anyone is looking to protect oneself or others.

Turning her in protects u, ur family, and families like mine that struggle having to work for our dollars

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 3:40 PM

I'm exactly the same with my sister.  It seems so unfair.  My sister inlaw actually really needs state assistance, so she has been on assistance for the past 4 years, and was just arrested last year for welfare fraud (which she didn't committ)  But there are people like my sister in law who really need it but are not getting what they need and then there are others who don't really need it and get a ton.  It's so unfair.  I completely here you on this one!

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