When taking or picking up the kids from their dads....

[NananRaysmom]

do you go inside the house?  My kids dad has them Fridays when I work...I take them there.  My boyfriends car is in the shop...so he took me to work today..and to drop the kids off.  I go to the door and go in...get them settled..say bye..make sure everything is good.  Their dads girlfriend is home but usually asleep. So..My boyfriend gets a little pissy.  Said its not normal to go IN the house...said I should drop them at the door.  Well..growing up my parents would always go into the others home when getting me or dropping me off.  And when I was with my ex...His older sons mom always came IN to the house...so to me its normal...  So what do you think?

[Lettybug]

Its normal, always check the environment where ur kids are going to be at

[nhultberg]

I don't go into his house. And he doesn't come into my house. We actually meet in a neutral location so there isn't any conflict. I would feel extremely odd going into his house and same if he came into my house.

[NananRaysmom]

Well..we really get along well.  I like his girlfriend and him and my boyfriend get along...  So it doesnt feel wierd for me to be in there.  Hmm...

[steviechick]

I kept the house.  My ex is not allowed in my house ever again.  I told my DD that, too.  If she was a minor I would have made sure in the divorce agreement that my ex pick up my DD and NOT take her over to his house.  He had an affair on me and fathered two kids while we were married.   I met the new wife and she knew from the very beginning that she was runing around with a married man.  I would NOT allow my DD anywhere near the new wife nor the kids they had together.  I would make my ex take our DD to various venues to spend time together.  Hard core?  You bet!  My ex and the bimbo decided to treat me like trash.  My ex and the bimbo get no respect from me. 

[owl0210]

No because my ex-husband does the pick up and drop offs.  

[LexRi0709]

My ex rarely let's me in. He generally stands right in front of the door holding it. I've invited him in to my place, not because I want him in here but he let's all my damn ac out.

[NananRaysmom]

Well..My ex did alot of shit to me too..and I believe me and his new girlfriend were overlapping for years...after I left we were still working on things.  But..thats the past...and it makes life easier for all involved...especially the kids...to put our differences to the side and the past behind us and move on.  Well..Maybe its not as normal as I though.  Hes more than welcome in my house when he comes to pick up or drop off the kids as well.  I have never thought twice about it.  I mean..Im not going to let him stand outside!

[rae021]

I'm not there yet, visits were only ever at grandmothers house so I went in we use to be on good terms, until the gf was there one day during pickup and I went in, she lost her mind blocked the door, wouldn't move I then got a text from ex saying I was no longer welcome . Lol last I checked it wasn't his house but his Moms and she said I was always welcome but that was the last he saw dd anyway .

[Lynette]

when I was growing up my father was not allowed any further than the entry way are of our home.

[taxlady2006]

I think it is just fine. It is better for the kids to see you getting along.