Hi my name is Trina. I have been a single mom for a thousand years it seems like! Mine is 17 and lives with her dad so no problems there really.
My biggest problem is income, of course, and dealing with child support. I am 2 months behind and my hours have been cut. I do have an opportunity to get a job at a gas station at minimum wage but dang! And to boot I just remembered that I was suppose to be in court on the 12th of July. Nothing can be done about that until Monday.
I guess the only thing I can do about child support is to turn in the paper work for the request to have it reduced and see what happens but they have once before suspended my license for being behind.
I guess maybe I just needed to vent. But if anyone has any suggestions they would be apprecitated. I will see if what you suggest will work in my situation.
Thanks for listening to a stressed out mom for the weekend!
Trina
No advice, but I know how you feel. I'm financially strapped and I was just let down by my son's father. First he said he would help but after a joking statement I sent him in a text, he changed his mind.
Now my son is being punished because his dad is a wishy washy asshole. :(
Ngi ne themba - I have hope.
I have to laugh at the situation, yours that is, and mine! I have been there a billion times with the sperm donar. Come to find out he is weak and doesnt' know what he's doing. Kids are resilliant, it won't detrimentally harm him as an adult. I was able to stop talking to my ex last year because mine is old enough to defend herself now. Her dad went so far to call her a chicken repeatedly while they were wake boarding on the local river. It is extrememly dangerous, it is no suprise when 3 to 5 people loose their lives in that river per year! Ya hes a poop for brains but he is doing the best he can and I'm a good mom sooo being out of the loop, meaning that she doesn't live with me, I can step back when she complains and not be angry any more. She does vent to me and that is hard but I am adjusting, good lord its an adjust ment ever year because kids change so fast and for you even more so!!
Hang in there if you give him, the dad, enough rope he will hang himself and that is what myex is doing with his daughter.
Vengance is a B!! and mine is nasty. hehe
Take care and don't be too serious, little ones are much smarter than we give them credit for.
Trina
I\m really I'm not help for you.
Basically, we had a WONDERFUL conversation at 12 pm this afternoon, about how he said he would help, and he even asked tp speak to my son WHOM he told himself (my son just turned 5 on the 11th) that he was gonna get him WHATEVER he wanted.
Then at 3 he texted me back saying he wouldn't be abnle to ship the gifts out until next month for his next pay. I jokingly told him he was too busy playing house with his gf and wouldn't be in the financial mess he's in right now if he balanced his financial obligations out and gave me money when he KNEW Maintenance is taking their sweet time with our recalculation.
Anyway, the text pissed him off apparently. He thinks I'm jealous and we had a long argument over the phone for almost an hour that resulted in him calling me an ungrateful bitch and acting like our 5 year old son who he DOES NOT EVEN KNOW because he hasn't been around my son since he was 2.
The phone call earliar, he said he would buy him the Lego kits and send me money for groceries OR to help with bills, and then the argument a few hours ago, he said "nevermind" to everything, so my day's been perpetually ruined. :(
Quoting trinastaples:I have to laugh at the situation, yours that is, and mine! I have been there a billion times with the sperm donar. Come to find out he is weak and doesnt' know what he's doing. Kids are resilliant, it won't detrimentally harm him as an adult. I was able to stop talking to my ex last year because mine is old enough to defend herself now. Her dad went so far to call her a chicken repeatedly while they were wake boarding on the local river. It is extrememly dangerous, it is no suprise when 3 to 5 people loose their lives in that river per year! Ya hes a poop for brains but he is doing the best he can and I'm a good mom sooo being out of the loop, meaning that she doesn't live with me, I can step back when she complains and not be angry any more. She does vent to me and that is hard but I am adjusting, good lord its an adjust ment ever year because kids change so fast and for you even more so!!
Hang in there if you give him, the dad, enough rope he will hang himself and that is what myex is doing with his daughter.
Vengance is a B!! and mine is nasty. hehe
Take care and don't be too serious, little ones are much smarter than we give them credit for.
Trina
Ngi ne themba - I have hope.
Good news, im so excited!
- trinastaples
on Jul. 21, 2012 at 5:54 PM