Hello
My name is Amanda and i am a single mother of a beautiful one year old boy. He is always on the move and man i wish i can scoop up some of his energy. I need some advice, i am going through some difficult stuff and an outsiders view always seems to give some better insight! My sons father is in the picture but there are reasons medically or mentally keeping him from being a full potential father. anyway i had to move back with my mother, which has had a rough past with. She is trying to control my son and she makes me feel like im not a good mom. By saying he needs to eat, and he has a wet diaper, like i wont do it. I have been on my own with my son, and we have our own routine but apparently its not good enough. On top of that my father has tried to call Department of Human Services on me 2 times now. They think im am unfit parent. But the caseworker who has contacted me has no concerns and they dont even have enough grounds to make as assessment let alone a case. It just hurts that ur own blood family would do this. Its getting harder to be motivated and feel good about myself. So any comments would help at this point.
I think that as long as you are confident that the decisions you make towards your child are in your child's best interest, then really you can keep doing what you are doing. I am not sure if you are saying that your parents think you are unfit because you have made bad decisions towards your child, or if they just disagree with your parenting style. I am expecting my first child in a few weeks and will be living at home as well. I think if I was have a similar conflict, I would try to take the necessary steps to make my parents feel that their advice and wisdom is welcome and appreciated, but in the end I have the last say. To me it is about boundaries. If they think you are just unfit altogether it might be best to just let them think that and invest your energy into getting in a better situation. Either way, I think being a mom is hard, and it comes with a lot of times were we question our abilities. But having confidence in your love and decisions towards your son will help, especially when people want to be judgemental. This is just my two cents, hope it helps :)
They keep sayin they are gonna take grandparent rights. I am waiting apporoval to get into a new college and then im also looking at low income housing in my town. So i hope it helps. I have set some boundries that my mom is having a hard time with but i am slowly putting my foot down. He is my son and im his mother and dhs will not diagree with me for a mother wanting to take care of her own child. Thank you all for the advice.
Welcome to the group. You need to find a way to get out of there...
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- jtws620
on Jul. 28, 2012 at 6:28 PM