About a month ago BD started emailing, saying he regretted his decision to walk out and now wanted to be involved. He asked to come to my next ultrasound. It was only a week or so away, and I said that was too soon for me to make any decisions and he could not come. I did agree to talk to him about a week later in a controlled environment, and recorded the conversation. He said how much he loved me, wanted to be involved with our son, suggested a plan, wanted to be at the birth. I told him that I didnt trust him at all. He said he understood why and he would do whatever I wanted.
Today, he decided to come to my house and tell me he had yet again changed his mind and wouldnt be a part of his life. He said, I thought a lot about it, and what if I was say doing something fun with my daughters, say, at a movie, and you called to tell me our son was sick, I am not going to be able to come running.
are you kidding me?
i admit, I let myself wish for the best. I am so near the end of my pregnancy, hormonal, worried and stressed. I cant believe this. Why did he ever come back only to change his mind again?
I am due in less than 2 months, and for a brief second, I thought my son would have a father in his life.
I am sorry you are in this situation. I am single mom of 3.
If he said if our son is sick, I am not going to come running. Let it go. If he wanted to be a dad he would step up. While I believe all kids deserve both parents, some men just dont see it that way; but I don't see why he acts this way and has other children.
Just let him know he is welcome in your sons life but it has to be consistent for the babies sake when he gets old enough to know.
Good luck!
Awwww 
Do you have any type of support system? It can be hard but if you do lean on them..let them know how you're feeling. As for the father you have to do what you can to ensure the best health for you and your little man. Even now he's taking his cues from mommy. When you're calm, he's calm. When you're stressed, he's stressed..so for the time being cut dad out of the equation and focus on yourself. You're about to embark on the most remarkable journey ever...motherhood. Rermember, the ladies are here whenever you need us. I truly hope this helps. You can send me a private message to talk as well if you'd like.
Thanks ladies. I have some support, but I feel like all that I do is whine to them, and their reaction is always, just forget him you'll be fine. As any single mom knows, its much much more complicated than that. I cant stop thinking, why did he ever come back in the first place.
wow... sounds A LOT like my 2nd daughters father... but he did end up being there my entire labor and delivery of his 4th child (my 2nd daughter) and was very active in naming her as well... she turned two a few weeks ago and altho he was invited to her bday party I knew he wasnt going to show up nor reply to my email about the party. he hasnt seen her in almost a year and a half and has no plans on seeing her in the future.
im still getting over the heartbreak, but it hurts a little less each day.
My only advice, stay strong and stay as postive as you can. Good luck hun!
Ugh why are there so many of them out there? When did he fall out fo the picture? Do you wish he had never been there at all?
Quoting Malor-something:wow... sounds A LOT like my 2nd daughters father... but he did end up being there my entire labor and delivery of his 4th child (my 2nd daughter) and was very active in naming her as well... she turned two a few weeks ago and altho he was invited to her bday party I knew he wasnt going to show up nor reply to my email about the party. he hasnt seen her in almost a year and a half and has no plans on seeing her in the future.
im still getting over the heartbreak, but it hurts a little less each day.
My only advice, stay strong and stay as postive as you can. Good luck hun!
prayers for all involved..
- lovethelake
on Jul. 29, 2012 at 3:54 PM