Anyone had thoughts like this?

[lf1975]

I have been feeling and thinking to give my son to a family member temporarily because I can not take of my 2 kids. I just can't do it physically, mentally, emotionally. I have a 4 year old daughter and 10 month old son. Kids dad is not in the picture at all. Has anyone ever had thoughts like this?

[KRIZZ25]

yesi have but i couldent do it ..i dont wont someone else raseing my kids..not even the dad.

[Malor-something]

i think about it when things get tough... before my 2nd daughter was born i had picked out, talked to and met with a couple who was going to adopt her but i backed out 8wks before my due date... i often wonder how life would be different had i gone thru with the adoption, but i cant imagine life without her, hence the reason i changed my mind. just remember they arent young forever. try to enjoy the time they are young now and try to gain a different perspective on your situation, i wish you the best!

[Chrissy208]

I've thought about it just couldn't pull through. I stuck it out and am grateful :)

[mommy72587]

Yes! All the time infact i just posted a situation kind of like your`s. See i have three daughters and no one to hel[p me. Only you have the option of letting a family member help you. And see i have the only option of placing my childern up for adoption.,.

[lf1975]

Thank you for the support! It's not that I don't love him and want to keep him it's just that I can't take care of him. I am so run down.... I am sure you guys can relate.

[Sidrosmomma]

I haven't had thoughts like that, but understand how you could.  ICan you move in with a family member to help ease the burden?  Also you may want to be checked for post partum depression/anxiety.  Your son is only 10 months old....so you are still in the post partum period I couldn't give up my son to anyone so I did both of these things.  I was put on medication and I moved in with my mom.  I am so happy now.

[angie2568]

 Yes for like 5 seconds. Just breathe - YOU WILL BE OKAY - I PROMISE YOU THAT!!!

I am a 33 yr old single mom of 3 blessings (14 yr-d, 8 & 4 yr old -sons) Their dads (oldest 2 same, last not) are not in picture. No child support, insurance, nothing!

I would talk to your family, ask to take a weekend to yourself, so you can regroup your thoughts etc.

I feel overwhelmed alot, I cry when kids are asleep, when I am in shower, when I have sunglasses on. When I think have I ruined my kids lives by being single - - - but I tried to make their dads be here literally for them, but they chose another life.

Have them a strict routine (examples: wake up - 6am have a photo or sticker/magazine cut out, breakfast 6:30a, brush teeth 6:45a, school/daycare etc) Then have a reward/consequence - for 2/3 yr olds  and up. Do not yell (although sometimes we cant help it, dont constantly nag bc they tune it out!!!)

Good luck, I am here if you need to vent, talk, message or advice/tips.

Prayers are with you!

[Kid_Cat_Mom2005]

I personally never had thoughts like that, the worst I had was when I'd look at my son (when he had colic as a infant), and think, ' I didn't sign up for this !' I was on my own since day one, no family or friends to offer support. I was able to make it work, my son is now 6 and I'm in college full time. I still don't get any support, I just deal with it day by day. Good luck

[Robsessed98]

The thought crossed my mind occasionally when my kids were small and I was too exhausted and stressed to function normally, but it always passed.  If you honestly believe it would be best for your son (not just for you!), then let them take him for a while, but make sure you do it legally so your ass is covered and you're not charged with abandonment.  ((hugs))