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I am a widow whose husband was killed on the job while working for the U.S. Forest Service in Yakutat, Alaska. Because our four daughters were (and three still are) minors at the time, I qualified for widow's death benefits, as well as workers' comp. I quit my job at the University of Alaska and over 20+ years of the corporate life to be a stay-at-home mom. While it had its perks, it also had its drawbacks in that I became very lonely.
I moved to a new town in 2009 to be closer to my ailing mother, who passed away on May 27th. I also just got my Bachelor's Degree in English. I decided to go back to work. I found a job as an Administrative Assistant for a local church, of which I am not a member. I agreed to part time, so I am working 35 hours a week. However, the days are Monday-Friday with an unpaid one-hour lunch. So even though I am "part time," I still work full-time days. I stressed the importance of me being able to balance work and family, and they agreed, being a "family-oriented" church and all.
So last week, I asked if I could work through my lunch hour and take off an hour early to get ready for my daughter's 13th birthday sleepover. My boss, the Executive and Family Pastor of the church, informed me that by law, they had to make me take a lunch. But in the next breath, he said he wasn't positive on that and to ask the office manager when she got back from vacation. As it turned out, I only left 1/2 hour earlier than I wanted, but I sense that the whole "family" thing was a farce.
Consequently, she was on vacation last week (the week I started), and he is on vacation this week and gone to a family camp next week. I am being trained by a young intern and he seems to be a little disgruntled with me at times because I am not "getting it right the first time."
Anyway, I digress. I also calculated my wages and with the income I am making, even part time, it puts me over the limit of qualifying for widow's benefits. But, at the same time, if I lose the widow's benefits, I cannot make ends meet on this income alone, even with workers' comp.
I am stuck in a bind. I don't know what to do. Should I quit? Take a cut in pay? Your thoughts, please. And, please, no bashing about being on social security. I am not "taking advantage of the system." I am not on food stamps, WIC, or low-income housing. I qualified because my husband was KILLED while our children were still young (the youngest was only 4 years old at the time and is only 10 now). Thank you.