need help with my relationship...

[lazys]

Well i met my boyfriend in the internet we gt to knw each other by phone for around 2 years or less. I got closer to him in the way that he asked me to go live with him. I had a terrible life so all i wanted was peace and i tryd to find it by living with him as a couple and not be a house to house girl anymore.... so i did i went over with him and when he picked me up i had asurprize that he had lied about his age i didnt mind... in reality all i wanted was love.... he was or is around 40s and am 20 and we kinda gt along untill i find out he has kids groun up kids older than me and i didnt have how to go bak at that moment then well i tought it maybe wasnt so bad.... then i gt pregnant and now my baby has 1 year old... now i told him i would give him a chance but theres been alot of women problems w him... then he has a son of 23 lasy ass and always askin for money and we dnt gt as much now then we live w my boyfriends brothers as well i gt tired i have 2 years hanging around like everythins ok when its not i wanted to be livin as a couple not a total family hous. The money hasnt been enough am getin tired of liivin like this am gtin tirrd of not been able to give my son what he needs nd i have no ways to move on my own. I want to separate bt i dnt knw how i have noone and i cant hang out anymore i need help to go somewhere and a job and literaly i need help to start all over without leavin my son in the wind and miss atend him what should i do w my life i mean im happy with my boyfriend am just not happy w the life hes giving me yet he promised that everythin would change sence i gt together and nothing has happend... what chould i do... any

[BeachMommy07]

Youre very young and he's old enough to know better. You need to search your heart and decide what is best for your child(ren) and yourself. 

[MicahBoo07]

hes in his 40s so if he doesn't have his life together yet and can't afford to take care of everyone in his life meaning his kids and u then u need to rethink it all. Don't stay there because u think there is no where for u to go. I know in my city they have a place for girls with baby they can stay there and get help and can get back on there feet. U need to do research and see where u can go some where. If u want out there is always a way out.

[LancesMom]

He started this relationship with a lie. That sends up a ton of red flags. I suggest you get out and on your own. There can never be trust in a relationship that starts out as a lie.

Hugs!

[sid1083]

Quoting BeachMommy07:

Youre very young and he's old enough to know better. 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

[amonkeymom]

I agree!

Quoting LancesMom:

He started this relationship with a lie. That sends up a ton of red flags. I suggest you get out and on your own. There can never be trust in a relationship that starts out as a lie.

Hugs!

[lazys]

Bt am scared to go on my own i dnt want to leave my son alone and what if i cant get a job its really thoufh lately and idk what to do i also need to help my mother whos in mexico w my 5 lil brothers and sisters shes about to lose her job and i really dnt want her to look at me like a fail.

[lazys]

I also would like to move out of state if i could bt i dnt knw how to look for help plus i dnt want my son to gt mad at me when he grows up for takin him aeay from his father that the most scariest part of all. And i dnt wnt him to leave me and go w his father. I would totaly die if that hapend.

[easinpc]

I agree with this.  If it had been me as soon as I found out he had lied about his age I would have ended it because I would have always been worried about what else he had/would lie about.

Quoting LancesMom:

He started this relationship with a lie. That sends up a ton of red flags. I suggest you get out and on your own. There can never be trust in a relationship that starts out as a lie.

Hugs!

[LancesMom]

Quoting lazys:

Bt am scared to go on my own i dnt want to leave my son alone and what if i cant get a job its really thoufh lately and idk what to do i also need to help my mother whos in mexico w my 5 lil brothers and sisters shes about to lose her job and i really dnt want her to look at me like a fail.

I know you are worried! But you can do this Hon! You don't need a 40 yr old man to help you. Have you checked out the CafeMom Member Resources? If nothing else they may get you started in getting the help you need! Hugs!

[michiganmom5150]

Do you know how old he is? You say 40s...did you know about his other children? Seems like he lied to you. If you have a child together, you can't move out of state unless he moves too or he gives you permission. I can't move more than 100 miles without my ex saying it's ok. I'd talk to him first, tell him how you feel, see if anything changes...if not, get in touch with some resources to help you get out and start over.