I'm currently 12 weeks and 4 days pregnant today with a little girl. Unfortunately she will never really know her daddy because of his ways. The state is helping me sign a restraining order against him for me and the child. I met her daddy about four months ago and thought he was picture perfect and then one day he snapped and started being aggressive. Then after that one day it just progressed into something i became so scared of. I was terrified to leave my house almost like i still am now. He abused me for two and a half months. I told him i was pregnant when i took a blood test at 4 weeks, but then i had to say i miscarried for the baby's safety and mine. It makes me feel like a terrible liar to have said that to him, but i really had to for her safety and mine. He still hit me knowing i was expecting. Another thing is im dating someone really close to me and hes willing to be there for my daughter. So far the father knows im expecting my new boyfriend's child, but im sure once the state sues him for everything he'll find out i lied. Im honestly SCARED to death that he will take my daughter away. Hes so involved in drugs and cant even support himself. Im not trying to bash on him and make him seem scummy but its the gods honest truth and it kills me that he's this way..
You have to do what is best for you and your child.
Although I do believe children derserve 2 parents it doesnt have to be biological for many reasons that sometimes are private for the mother.
Good Luck!
I agree with this. Hugs!
Quoting angie2568:
You have to do what is best for you and your child.
Although I do believe children derserve 2 parents it doesnt have to be biological for many reasons that sometimes are private for the mother.
Good Luck!
Quoting MicheleJM:
If he is a drug addict and cant support himself no judge will give him custody. I would get out and let everyone know about him so they can support you. And make sure this new man isnt a carbon copy of the last. I have things like that so just saying...GL to you
I went through somewhat of a similar situation. When I first met the father of my children I thought he was something special. He gave me no reason to think otherwise until we moved in together. Then his mask was taken off and his true colors showed. He was controlling, physically and mentally abusing, and addicted to drugs. Like an idiot I stayed with him for 2 1/2 years. Having my daughter opened my eyes and I packed up and left. For 3 years he threatend many things to scare me. He got out of control on drugs that he went to jail for awhile. He worked his charm and manipulativeness in his letters to me and I was neive and let him talk his way back in. Had my son and shortly after he was born history repeated itself. My point to all this is I know how scarry they can be, how quickly they can break you down, and how easy it is for them to do it. But he has nothing to offer to you or your baby other than empty threats. He knows you will do great without him and that intimadates him. And say he does try to take your baby, a judge will see right through him. More than likely though, he knows he don't have a chance in hell and won't even try. If he is anything like my ex and countless others, he won't have much to do with the child. And when he does, it's to get to you but show him he can't affect you. That he doesn't scare you. He will back off. Keep your head up and do what is best for your baby.
Your timeline seems a bit off but I would be extremely careful jumping into a new relationship so quickly after getting out of an abusive one. The unborn baby's needs should really come before anything else. If you are getting a protection order though I highly doubt any judge would award the father custody.
if he cant support himself then he wont have money to take you to court.
didn't see this coming
- maxzinedanielle
on Aug. 3, 2012 at 6:39 AM