My ex and I are not doing the child support through a court. My ex is an illegal immigrant and it would be better for us if the court system doesn't get involved. We are still very friendly. I asked him if he would like to go to Six Flags with me, the baby, and my family on Sunday. He said sure he'd luv too. But then he just called and said he can't afford to go and asked if I'd buy his ticket for him. I said that I couldn't afford it either. He said that with having to pay so much child support he barely has enough money to buy himself food. Should I lower the child support? I asked him for a comfortable amount to be able to pay 1/2 of daycare, 1/2 of the health insurance bill, and 1/2 of our son's grocery bill. Should I consider lowering it or should I not lower it and let him know that I am still paying for all his clothes, his housing, his diapers and wipes, etc. What do you think?