Bd has been in my son's life for a couple months now just doing supervised visits with me. My son has been acting out badly lately. I let him take my son to the pool in my complex today without me while I did homework. When they came back my son was all mad and said Dad pinched me! I know bd has done this before and I try to deflect him and direct him to try reasonable discipline methods. My son had a little bruise where he was pinched. While my son was on time-out in his room for another reason, I had a talk with bd about the pinching. I said I don't like this because it leaves a mark and it is considered abuse. If he acts out to an extreme we can spank his rear end but nothing more than that. And spankings should not be a regular occurence, only when he does something that is dangerous. Time outs and taking things away are best. Bd seemed to agree with me about the pinching when I mentioned it is considered child abuse. I hope he is open here with me and that we can discipline and parent together. He so far is getting along with me great other than that. I think I nipped that one thank God.