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[Apple87]

I'm new here I just signed up literally 15 min ago in desperation. I need an outlet. I have 3 beautiful intelligent girls (5 and under) but they're driving me absolutely insane!!! I hate crying but I'm crying now:( I'm a single mom with a full time job and full time student and I get no free time NO sleep no study time no nothing... The list goes on and on. My heart hurts because in a way I feel like I don't love my kids anymore like I used to. I feel so ashamed to say it but I almost resent them. I've lost my hair, gaining weight, grades are slipping, going broke because I buy their things (that they ruin or break) I'm losing my patience and my mind. I need help, I need to hear from someone I'll be ok and I can get threw this, so I can love them again like when they were first born.

[Smartsicles]

Bump.

I have no advice, but I hope someone can help you quick.

[Apple87]

I look at them while they sleep and I feel horrible cause how could I be soo mad at them they're so precious. I just feel like I've failed as a mother

[Smartsicles]

NO. You did not fail. I will be the first person to tell you I've felt resentment towards my child, but it GETS BETTER, it always does. It's hard being a single parent, but I was a young mom, and I've obviously grown as a parent over the years but those first few months -  you second guess yourself and feel like you've possibly made the wrong decisions in life.

The best thing to do is just keep on truckin' 'cause we are only human and we're ALL susceptible to moments of weakness.

Quoting Apple87:

I look at them while they sleep and I feel horrible cause how could I be soo mad at them they're so precious. I just feel like I've failed as a mother

[MeeshMom]

I have one wild soon to be 5 yr old boy, work full time, school full time and I just decided to take a leave of absence from school. When it gets overwhelming you gotta slow it down. I hardly get to study or sleep too. Give your body and mind some rest. They must be craving your attention cuz of your busy schedule. My kid does that too. I can't imagine with 3! Good luck with all that.

[Robsessed98]

Welcome to the group. Maybe you need to slow down a bit -- go to school part time or take a leave of absence for a bit.  You're only one person and you can't do it all and expect to be sane.  You haven't failed as a mother so quit thinking that.  Just take a break and sit back for a minute to regroup.... you can and will do it!

[Mommyto2LilMen]

Sometimes you just need to take a deep breath and slow down.  Take it all in!  You are doing fine mama. 

[Apple87]

Thank u for ur advices. Im going to take a leave of absence as well. Even tho I love school and would really like to stick it out I really can't I know my kids need me but I think my body needs me more, in the sense I eat when I can and sleep never. I need to take a load off for the mean time. I hope this will be a good decision in the long run. Thank u again

[animebuddy]

I agree with scaling back on school. Go half time instead of full time. And do some fun things with your kids, even if its just having a movie night.

[sarahmiamaria]

This. Slooooow down mama. Take a deep breath and take the world off your shoulders. Stress will eat you alive

Quoting Robsessed98:

Welcome to the group. Maybe you need to slow down a bit -- go to school part time or take a leave of absence for a bit.  You're only one person and you can't do it all and expect to be sane.  You haven't failed as a mother so quit thinking that.  Just take a break and sit back for a minute to regroup.... you can and will do it!