Hello, my name is Cristina. It has been a long time since I have been on here. Here is my first post.
Anyways, Im having problems. As my other post says, Im in the middle of a divorce. My husband filed for custody hearing and I won. We both got custody, but I got physical custody. Now because I live with my mom in a really tiny place, DHS talked me into allowing him to keep the kids TEMPORARILY till I get my own place. According to this housing program Im working with that will be 1-3 months. Bad thing is, the kids are not allowed here at my mom's (also DHS is worried about my moms drinking even though I told them she doenst drink around them). So i get 2 visits were Xhusband lives (DHS takes me) and hopefully 2 here when the grandparents can bring the kids to a park here. This sucks. I want more than maybe 2-4 visits with my kids. I cant wait to be accepted into my own place and get the kids back.
Then I get news from my lawyer. She said it would be a good idea to break up with my BF. Damnit! She said Xhusband will use it in court to make me look bad saying Im already looking for a new daddy for the kids. (Even though Ive thought of leaving xhusband half a year before i actually did, and i left him may of 2011 so we've been split for over a year). It just sucks that he gets to control me so damn bad, even AFTER i leave him. While living with him i barely saw my family, then lost my friends because he didnt like him, stopped talking to my dad cuz he broke down my dads door and my dad just hates him, then i move back and loose my kids for a few months and now i have to 'break up' with my BF. It sucks that I cant be happy. I mean I dont tell the kids to call him daddy, i dont kiss him in front of the kids, etc. they just see him as my friend. My lawyer says I shouldnt date til the divorce is finalled, and right now the next trial date is March of 2013, but its going to get pushed father back because Xhusband's lawyer forgot to include something we are going to discuss in court so they have to change the date.
I cant do it. Im finally happy and found someone who loves me and doesnt want to control me and use me and im getting that taken from me. Im not doing it.
I just have so much going on. A little thing I have to worry about now is the housing im going to move to will not allow cats so i have to give away my son's kitty. :( He's going to be sooooo upset.