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is it bad?

Posted by on Aug. 13, 2012 at 7:06 PM
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Is it bad that I kinda wish bd had his house fixed up and I could start letting him take my son every other weekend? His house is disgusting. Original carpets well over 20 years saturated in cigarette smoke, bong water, and all kinds of filth from never being cleaned. Not to mention the whole place is pure nasty. It is his parents house which is now his so he has to fix it up. Visits are ok, kinda rough because my son tests him a lot. But he is being consistent and working well with me. They just have only gotten to know eachother for 3 months now. But my kid is ok and gets that this is his dad. I could use the help/break since my whole family moved far away from me. Things have been busier here. I can't drop my son off to anyone so I can make a trip to the store or take care of something anymore. I also wanna start going out again and have a life. I love my son but I am single and need help from time to time. I have done this alone for almost 5 years now. 

 

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Shy_Dia
by Silver Member on Aug. 13, 2012 at 7:09 PM

i dont think its bad to want the time to yourself... but to actually drop him off to a bad environment- then yea. lol

maybe you can suggest to dad that he take DS out for the day- the park, to lunch, chuck e cheese so you still get a few hours to yourself and DS isnt exposed to a bad place.

PaperClip811
by Silver Member on Aug. 13, 2012 at 7:10 PM
I don't think it's bad. I think that's the one perk to being a single mom when the dad is involved. You get to deal with his shit but you get a couple days (or at least a couple hours) a month to yourself.
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faerie75
by Ruby Member on Aug. 13, 2012 at 7:16 PM

 no not ata ll. the bad thing is you cant make him :( i hope he gets on it

MeeshMom
by Platinum Member on Aug. 13, 2012 at 7:18 PM

problem is the house will cost at least 5 grand just to replace the carpet. He has to paint and replace some shit too.

SinceresMomma
by Silver Member on Aug. 13, 2012 at 9:33 PM
No it's not bad at all. We all need a break here and there so that one of the good things about having both parents involved.
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raegan1221
by Raegan on Aug. 13, 2012 at 10:21 PM

 Not bad at all...you deserve some time. Plus that way he'd really have a chance for some one on one time with your son.

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Aug. 13, 2012 at 11:04 PM
Not bad at all. Hope things work out soon!!!
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