I'm a single mother of one child. I have son & he's 10 going on 30. As long as I could remember its been very difficult raising him on my own because of the constant bad behavior, disrespect, tantrums, throwing things, breaking toys, trouble in school. I mean the list goes on.
I really don't know what to make of it anymore. I think I've tried & continue trying to make our lives better but nothing seems to work. My son has been in therapy since he was 6 years old & nothing has changed. There's been only short periods of time where I have saw improvements in his behavior but he has 101 excuses why he does what he does. He has never wanted to take responsibilty what he has done.
When I left his father, had to go back to mom which completely broke me in two because I left her house at 16. Going back with a child wasn't easy for me. I really didn't want to subject my son to her because she's vert verbally abusive. One of the reasons I left at a young age. There was alot of tension in that house with my mother & she would say & do things to get riled up & infront of my son. So I know the constant bickering had some affects on him & not having his dad around. Those facts have taking atoll on him. He grew up very angry & now facing depression. His therapist wants to evaluate him for meds because nothing has worked. I told her I would think about it.
I'm to the point that I don't want to do it anymore but I keep going because I'm the only one he has that hasn't left. I love my son with all my heart & I feel extremely guilty for feeling this way. I wish I didn't but I'm one person with to much on her plate for so long.
Thank you for listening....
I really don't know what to make of it anymore. I think I've tried & continue trying to make our lives better but nothing seems to work. My son has been in therapy since he was 6 years old & nothing has changed. There's been only short periods of time where I have saw improvements in his behavior but he has 101 excuses why he does what he does. He has never wanted to take responsibilty what he has done.
When I left his father, had to go back to mom which completely broke me in two because I left her house at 16. Going back with a child wasn't easy for me. I really didn't want to subject my son to her because she's vert verbally abusive. One of the reasons I left at a young age. There was alot of tension in that house with my mother & she would say & do things to get riled up & infront of my son. So I know the constant bickering had some affects on him & not having his dad around. Those facts have taking atoll on him. He grew up very angry & now facing depression. His therapist wants to evaluate him for meds because nothing has worked. I told her I would think about it.
I'm to the point that I don't want to do it anymore but I keep going because I'm the only one he has that hasn't left. I love my son with all my heart & I feel extremely guilty for feeling this way. I wish I didn't but I'm one person with to much on her plate for so long.
Thank you for listening....
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on Aug. 18, 2012 at 1:16 PM
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on Aug. 19, 2012 at 3:25 PM
Awwwww thank you,
Same goes for you, I really mean that. I've tried so many different tactics maybe getting him on meds is last thing left to do because nothing has worked in the past.
Same goes for you, I really mean that. I've tried so many different tactics maybe getting him on meds is last thing left to do because nothing has worked in the past.
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I can completely understand how you feel I still have days with my son were he gets so angry about everything & I have had to learn how to talk to him to get him to calm down & open up about what's really going on but that didn't start until the last 6 months or so when he started taking wellbutrin. It's a really hard some days with him but it helped when I found out what was the cause & that there was help & others going thru the same thing. If you ever need to talk you can always message me.
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on Aug. 19, 2012 at 4:05 PM
How's your prayer life? Are you affiliated with a solid local church? At this point you have done all you know to do. Maybe all this struggle with him can be dealt with on a spiritual level...its worth the investment just to be connected you know? It certainly helps me.
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on Aug. 19, 2012 at 4:27 PM
I'm not a religious person but that's an idea that I haven't thought of.
Thank you!
Thank you!
Quoting strongerwtime:How's your prayer life? Are you affiliated with a solid local church? At this point you have done all you know to do. Maybe all this struggle with him can be dealt with on a spiritual level...its worth the investment just to be connected you know? It certainly helps me.
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