Wwyd??

[ElyseFowler]

So my biological dad and I haven't seen or spoken to each other since I was 4 now I'm 22. My fiancé and I decided to ask for money for our wedding and I'm scared cause he said yea he'd try to help. He wants my address but I'm nervous about it cause I don't trust him I feel he might randomly show up at my doorstep. I'm thinking of renting a po box in a large city and just have all my mail forwarded to me in the actual town I live in but will they need my address and will they give it out if someone is asked? What would you do in my situation? Feel free to message me for more details.

[MeeshMom]

I don't know but why did you ask him for money if you're afraid of him? I wouldn't have asked in the first place if it were me.

[michiganmom5150]

They aren't allowed to give forwarded addresses. I got a mailwoman fired b/c she told my abusive ex where my mail was forwarded to. Maybe meet him some and get to know him so you are more comfortable?

[ElyseFowler]

Not really afraid just weary of him haven't spoken to him in like 18 yrs so it's a bit difficult. I asked because this man has never done anything for me and I've never asked for anything and part of me feels he owes this to me and my fiancé

[mrene88]

This!

Quoting MeeshMom:

I don't know but why did you ask him for money if you're afraid of him? I wouldn't have asked in the first place if it were me.

[NananRaysmom]

Why did you ask for money if you have no relationship andhavent seen him since you were 4?? That seems odd...

Nevermind...I see your reason. No..don't agree. Just becausehe wasn't in you life doesn't mean he owes you to pay for your wedding. But....I have never agreedwith 2 adults..playing house...expecting anyone...even their parents to pay for their wedding. You live with a man...kids are involved...your living as a family. You want it legal..I say you pay. Just mu opinion. I would never concider asking my family to help pay.

[Teenmommy1119]

I'm still stuck on the fact you asked him for money for a wedding he has no part in & hasn't had a relationship with you for almost 20 years. I get he's you dad. But that's a long time!

Idk I hate relying on people as it is. & I always think people are judging me for relying On my parents now. But since I lost my job & no one wants to hire a preggo lady.. I have no choice!

[MeeshMom]

Well I disagree. No amount of money is gonna make up for any absent father. But now he's gonna feel like you owe him as well regardless if you agree with that or not.

Quoting ElyseFowler:

Not really afraid just weary of him haven't spoken to him in like 18 yrs so it's a bit difficult. I asked because this man has never done anything for me and I've never asked for anything and part of me feels he owes this to me and my fiancé

[LifeCafe42]

Meet him somewhere to get it or have him do money gram

[SinceresMomma]

Why are you asking him for money, if your so weary of him and doesn't want him around? I get he was absent but he doesn't owe you and especially doesn't owe your fiancé. you have a man and it was your choice to have this wedding, you two should be paying for it.. I get your point but I don't agree., seems like your just using that reason as a way to get money for him.. Not to be rude though

[ElyseFowler]

My mom and stepdad are paying for it as well. They both are very big on tradition back in the day the bride's family paid for the wedding including an "absent" parent or that parents side I agree with tradition in my opinion he could've ignored the email or said no I won't help I'm sure he feels bad for not being there for me growing up I don't care if he wants to attend if that's what he wants. Looks like I shouldn't have come here for help all that's happening is me getting bashed for wanting help from the man who assisted in creating me