Hey there my name is Miss Jones aka The cleaning lady due to me just getting a business started cleaning "First Class Cleaning ". Look it up on facebook and like me cause it makes me feel good to see more likes. LOL!!!! I'm new to this and divorced with two great girls and me and their dad are still trying to get the spark back but we end up fighting every other day. I just have major trust issues and 16yrs with the same person is just hard to be done. 
Hello...i'm Shayla welcome to the group I have 3 girls myself and they too are great girls
How old are your girls?
Hey there it is so great to know that there is another new single mom!!!! But on a serious note I am pretty much in the same type of situation but I was the one and still fight the drug use cause mine is verbal and I wanted to become like a mute to it . It made my girls have to see a lot of uneccessary arguing and now I fight my addiction and still fight the words of him on a daily basis. " You know if you would of listen to me that you would not be so stupid". "God you are the stupid white bitch and noone will do anything for you unless it's me". I heard this and much ,much more on a daily basis and end up with no self worth and I have not gotten that back to this day. Now we had a business for four years and I closed it and moved due to him going to jail for 2yrs on a sentence of 6yrs but got paroled and to his sisters but my girls and I were so happy and I ended up moving into a house. He left me 10,000 to live on because I had no job and you would of thought it was a million and not one time was I acknowledged for the fact of getting the home and maintaining it for that period by myself due to me not having great money managment skills . So I wish I could go back and do this all over and still have my girls cause I love and wouldn't trade them for the world. We have been together 16yrs and I can't imagine my life without him but I know it would be better for my girls cause they hate the fighting and know it is a negative situation. The good is great but the bad out weighs the good by long. He leaves all the time and and recently found proof of past cheating and now I have add another quick fix to block that out and I havent ever got over the thoughts so it kills me on a daily basis. I have a cleaning business and love it to death cause I have been raised with a OCD mother and clinic diganoised . I just need more work and I just hate when my girls arent the first thing in a day because I go through the thoughts of " Where he is "? or if I call and no answer. It isn't healthy and I feel that I won't be here much longer due to the amount of quick fixes I am now killing myself with. I am a great mom and my girls see me cry all the time and I consider myself a functional addict and hate it to the core!!!
Just think of your kids first and always know that he will not think of you all first unless it's a need or a want cause a addict that is what they do on a daily basis. I don't do it cause of liking it because it's to a point of not knowing normal now. I do just enough to get over the not sick or to get through a day and mine is perscribed but a drug is a drug. We aren't ever going to be happy with these men no matter how much they say " Sorry you are my world and you make me so mad that I say the meanest things or do stupid stuff". It is a new thing every day so I know and you know that we have to get a exit plan and do it when they least expect it and know that our kids will only grow and become better people for what we do. My girls will end up with someone like this if I don't change. Please keep in touch and by the way my name is Mendy! I am so great at preaching but the practicing what I preach is the thing. Great meeting you and hope I didn't over whelm you.
My daughter doesn't like my boyfriend.
- mjjones531
on Aug. 27, 2012 at 11:38 PM