I have been married almost 4 years now, to my high school sweetheart. We got married very young and started a family young as well. We have a 3 year old son together. Our entire marriage has been rocky to say the least. My husband is get immature and unwilling to step up.for our family. I feel I have done everything in my power to try and keep my family and marriage together for the past few years. I put myself through college and graduated nursing school all while being a new mom at 20 years old by the way, a wife and working sometimes 3 jobs all.at the same time all for the greater good of my family. He never once picked up slack..kept his same old 9-5 he had in high school. While I was working hard he was keeping secrets. After 3 years of marriage and 5 years together I learned he had a severe addiction to pornography. Taking money from our accountant to get it, doing it at work ect. He told me he had had this problem since he was 15. It sounds stupid but you have no idea how much it hurt! Not to mention his drinking had become a problem, my son and I were never his priority and he had been unfaithful. Still I couldn't leave him because I love him. Finally on mothers day 2012 he snapped and in a drunken rage he became physical with me, not the first the but the worst by far. After that I had no choice I booted him out. We have been seperated since. About a month after that we decided divorce was the way to go. I met with a lawyer and yada yada...meanwhile I met someone new. Mostly someone in a similar situation and we shared advice and feelings and such. Our relationship began to get mote serious and long story short..I'm expecting his child in march. Oops! Now the problem is this...I am still legally married. My ex wants to get back together and raise the child as his own. The new boyfriend is excited and very supportive as well, he has no children and always has. I am torn!!! I one hand yes my ex is crazy but I love him and he is a good father. We are still legally married it just seems like an easy button so to speak. My family adores him and only wants us to get back together. The new guy is just that..new we don't know a lot about one another. He is however much more stable, no crazy issues ( that I know of) a career a home ect. We get along great but we have only known each other a short time. Both men know the truth about the other, I have not kept anything secret. Their jelousy problems are really stressing me out. I need to make a decision but I'm not sure what is right. HELP!!!!!
on Aug. 31, 2012 at 1:26 AM