Has your child's father ever said this and what did you do??

[SexyDiva19]

I am through with him completely. Any lingering thoughts of hope and change I had about him/us are done for. If he wants to see his son so badly he can take me to court. He sent me a text yesterday saying that he wished I along with his son's mother would have had an abortion with our children because we (as mothers) are no good, trifling b!tches. I have not texted him back since and I won't even though he has sent me at last count 6 more messages. I refuse to talk to someone who "claims" to love me and yet wishes death upon their own child. He can call me every name in the book and I brush it off because it doesn't hurt me BUT when you talk about my child like that a child you "claim" you so call love and want to be around? There is no forgetting that for me. I may forgive him for it but I won't be speaking to him again. He keeps saying he is the "father" of my child and he is BUT my child is not a child that he wanted so in essence he is not his child because if he would have had his way my son would not be here.

How would feel about getting this text message? How would you react? Right now I am still so furious I can't see straight and I have never felt this way about anything he's ever said to me before.  His daughter's mother (there are 3 children, 3 mothers. 2 boys and 1 girl) and I have been messaging back and forth on FB and since she wants to run back and tell him everything I tell her, I sent her a message telling her that he can take me to court if he wants to see my son. Since he doesn't/didn't want my son, he can take me to court.

How would you handle this and did I handle this correctly?

[conniejo75]

Considering my ex and I divorced over him wanting me to abort our 2nd child.... I had to let it go so I could move on. He said it in anger and to push your buttons... not to say he would harm his child. Men are idiots but being angry only hurts you not him.

[PortiaRose]

DRAMACITY pop. YOU

[ame4c]

My x tried to tell my son he was a mistake and I put a stop to that immediately. My son was a honeymoon baby. I lived my whole life with my father telling me I was the biggest mistake of his life. I was NOT going to allow my children to even come close to thinking they were mistakes.

[SexyDiva19]

 huh?

Quoting PortiaRose:

DRAMACITY pop. YOU

 

[Momto3inMI]

What a BASTARD!!! Yes, u sure are handling it good! These Men are some real mother fukkers!! I just posted about my Ex breaking my Sons heart today..I feel ur pain. I feel like I failed my Son by picking his Father .. I really fukked up!! :(
Stay strong n dont let him get to u. I'd stay awsy from the Exs too. If their telling him stuff, he KNOWS its eating u up alive!! Men are evil!!

[faerie75]

My ex asked me to get one. At the time I was ma but lookin back I was 18, he was 19 a I has got pregnant the first time we had sex and we'd been dating less than a mo th and were not serious. Now I don't blame him for asking. But at that time my kid wasn't born yet. There's no use In saying that now.

[LexRi0709]

Yep. When my ex found out I was pregnant I was told I needed to have an abortion. When I refused he left. I tried to work things out when dd was born, but when she was 2 months old he hit me while I was holding her. I left immediately. A month later he filed paperwork suing me for full custody. We were ordered to 50/50 by the judge.

[Mocking.Jay]

My ex and his mother asked me numerous times to get one because it was in the baby's best interest to not be brought into this world. I gave birth and she did a 160, but my parents still haven't forgave her or him for even suggesting it. My mom said it was ultimately my choice, but she said I shouldn't just because they said so. 

She is pro-life, ex's mom is pro-choice because she's had 2 abortions.

[bekkamain]

Honestly I would keep the text and if he tries to take you to court submit it as evidence so that he cant get full custody if he tries.

[Krystle21]

Yes told me that when I told him I was Pregnant. I was upset BC he was being so selfish and never once asked me what I wanted. Here I an six years later n still don't talk to him. His loss