This is for the moms who have no bio dad on their child's birth cert.
You give birth to your child and you say don't want the father in the room during the birthing period and you don't want the bio dad's name on the b/c for whatever the reason is.
This in essence is saying you have sole/legal custody of the child and therefore are taking care of said child on your own. Why would you want to go to court to legalize it to say this is not the father of the child - when you have already stated that on the b/c - where there is no father?
On the other hand, the father comes back and states he wants a paternity test done - let him take it and he pays for it. IF in fact he is the father then you go to court to have it legalized to say he is going to pay c/s and be a part of the child's life or just pay c/s. Whatever suits him. He is in no way getting out of just to visit the child. This is very detrimental to the child especially for one who has never met the father since birth. He is going to pay for c/s from the time he finds out he is the father of the child til they are of age. Over time you would want to let the child have visitation with the bio father so he can get to know him. Once the paternity test has been established then a new birth certificate with his name on it should be encouraged by all parties. Until then, why do you moms bother even trying to contact or have any contact with the man you deny having any relations with your child if their (b/d) name is not on the birth certificate.
If you look up on your state's website I am presuming there are laws that state this very thing, mothers are the ones who have the sole legal custody of the child til circumstances change. Mom's don't go after the father to get the paternity test, if this was the case then the very thing you should do is to place the father on the birth certificate when the child is born. It costs more money to have a paternity test and going to court alone, than it is to have the birth certificate paid once with both parents name on it.
I do not understand why any mom who has the sole custody of a child to even think about going after bio dad for c/s if he is not on the birth cert from the very beginning of time. No matter which man it may be.
SEE PAGE TWO REPLY 17 - the reason I care! Let the man put himself where he wants to be!