my sons fathers parents are extremely rude to me and are only nice when they want something. i am only 23 and feel as though in the whole situation i am more mature than anyone. i have gotten to where i cant be nice anymore. last halloween my son was with his father and as a mom i asked if they could trick or treat to my house since we live less than 2 blocks away from each other. his dad said yes, and on halloween i waited. and waited. finally at 830pm i called and asked when they were going to head my way and his father said were not sara (his wife) doesnt feel like it. his mother kinda laughed and he hung up. i was devastated. so this year is my halloween and i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. part of me wants to be the better person and trick or treat to their house so they can see my son and the other part of me thinks i shouldnt. that i am always the nice person and hold my tongue when they have gotten nasty and said hurtful and disrespectful things. my friends and family say given things weve been through and how ive been treated i have the right to be spiteful every once in a while. i just am not sure what the "right thing" is.
be the bigger person and take him to their house. Since they're obviously not going to set a good example, you need to. Don't play their games. Stop by there and then be on your way, and your son will probably be happy and it will make you feel good. :)
My sons father and I always make sure to take him to see each other and also to my parents house (his parents don't live in town). So if its his dads turn to take him I pick him up before its time to trick or treat and take him to my parents house and then take him back for him to go with his dad. If its his dads turn he comes and picks him up, takes him back to his house, and than returns him to my house so we can go.
I agree. This is one of those things you do for your son, not for them. ;)
Quoting adulation:
be the bigger person and take him to their house. Since they're obviously not going to set a good example, you need to. Don't play their games. Stop by there and then be on your way, and your son will probably be happy and it will make you feel good. :)
oh gosh, I feel you. Im faced with similar situations all the time, though it's not ex's mom, it's his GF... But my son loves her, even though she can be a complete bitch to me.. so I suck it up (most of the time) and be the bigger person.
I figure in the end, my son will appreciate the fact that I never tried to push them away-- cause I know my husband and I do not receive the same courtesy from them.
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- ashleysuee
on Sep. 25, 2012 at 11:22 PM