my sons fathers parents are extremely rude to me and are only nice when they want something. i am only 23 and feel as though in the whole situation i am more mature than anyone. i have gotten to where i cant be nice anymore. last halloween my son was with his father and as a mom i asked if they could trick or treat to my house since we live less than 2 blocks away from each other. his dad said yes, and on halloween i waited. and waited. finally at 830pm i called and asked when they were going to head my way and his father said were not sara (his wife) doesnt feel like it. his mother kinda laughed and he hung up. i was devastated. so this year is my halloween and i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. part of me wants to be the better person and trick or treat to their house so they can see my son and the other part of me thinks i shouldnt. that i am always the nice person and hold my tongue when they have gotten nasty and said hurtful and disrespectful things. my friends and family say given things weve been through and how ive been treated i have the right to be spiteful every once in a while. i just am not sure what the "right thing" is.