Is what I want to tell my friend that has no kids.
Don't tell me that I'm still young and I need to force my POS ex to keep our kids so I can have some ME time. I know what my responsibilities are. You have NO kids you have no fucking clue what it's like to have to pick up another's parenting slack and raise 3 kids on your own while the other parent is 12 miles down the road. SHUT THE FUCK UP ALREADY.
I'm not about to push my kids onto him so he can blow up my phone and i'll have to go get them anyway because I just can't leave my kids somewhere they are not wanted. Don't give me shit that I'm not ripping him apart legally. I don't have to. He does it himself. Like at the child suport hearing yesterday, they only knew about his SS income, HE is the dumb ass that brought proof of his VA income too. I didn't have to tell them he got two checks. He ALWAYS shoots himself in the foot. I get what I want and come off smelling like a rose because he's an idiot.
I am choosing how to handle this situation, YOU AREN'T A PART OF IT.
And as far as the kids go, when they are old enough to understand and figure it out on their own, THEY will tell him what a piece of crap he is. I don't have to. Not like he'd listen to me anyway.