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scared to ever date again because of daughter

Posted by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 1:52 AM
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I probably won't date for a while because im in the process of getting my life together. But for the future I worry that no man will ever want me since I have a child by another man . I also am fearful of meeting perverts since I have a daughter though I know there are perverts into Little boys too. I know I will go to jail if a man even looks aty daughter in any unsavory type of way! Any other mothers have the same fears as me? Or anyone dated after having these fears ?
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Orlandosmom
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 2:03 AM
I am going through those fears it's scary when you have to think about more then just you because I would want someone to treat my son as their own even though he has a father that loves him but I feel like how do I leave my son to start dating because I don't want him to think that I'm putting him second I know I have awhile till I have to really worry about all that since he's only 2 weeks old and I'm not dating right now but I still worry about it all
flawskii
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 7:42 AM
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I have those same fears and I am a mother to a daughter as well. It's going to take some time before i even think about introducing a potential mate to my daughter. And trust me, I am the same way, if a man looks at my daughter is a unacceptable manner he's likey to be blind and if he touches her, well she be getting raised by her gma because I'd kill with no hestitation.

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Shaybay218
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 7:56 AM

I have 3 daughters so yes I know the feeling...

mhaney03
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 8:02 AM
I am not dating at all until mine are older
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erinmomofone
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 8:11 AM
I have that fear as well I have a four year old daughter and not wanting to date for a while.
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jinxmom
by Bronze Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 8:23 AM
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I haven't dated in years since lvg with a man on and off for 3 yrs, dd was 8 and it was hell.  We both survived it and thru counseling have grown from the experience and she is now 18, in college and has given me permission to date now (too funny) lol but to be honest, its not all that.  It would be nice but I'm 51 and really can take it or leave it. Too many men don't have a clue how to treat a woman.

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Oct. 4, 2012 at 8:41 AM
I had that feeling too but another former single mom said to me. Any good man will love you for who you are. Kids or no kids. Her and her new husband have 8 kids between the 2 of them. ( he has 4 boys and she has 2 of each)
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easinpc
by Gold Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 9:46 AM

I agree with this mom.  Great advice!

Quoting Mommyto2LilMen:

I had that feeling too but another former single mom said to me. Any good man will love you for who you are. Kids or no kids. Her and her new husband have 8 kids between the 2 of them. ( he has 4 boys and she has 2 of each)


Robsessed98
by on Oct. 4, 2012 at 1:26 PM
At this point you are obviously not ready to date, so dont think or worry about it now. You will know when you are ready and when you are, there are plenty of men out there who will accept your child. Anymore its almost impossible for men or women to find someone without children to date.
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MaddieLainesMom
by Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 1:37 PM

I was terrified to date again after I broke off the engagement to DD's dad. I thought I would spend my life devoting my time to DD and wanting around for the guy who would never come. But to my surprise I have found a really great guy. I think it's all about being really up front. I dated a few times other than the guy I'm with now. I came to the date and the first things out of my mouth were, "I have a little girl who means the world to me. If this is going to move forward you have to accept that she comes first and that you are getting a packaged deal. She comes right along with me." I felt like if they could accept that then we could date and see where it goes. To me putting it out there right away just solidifed how important that was. If they could get over that being the FIRST thing I said then we had a chance. But none of them met my DD. The only one who has passed the test of time is my bf Grant. We dated for a good 6 months before he met my DD. It was a casual thing since she came to see me at work and he worked with me. It probably would have been later that they met if it weren't for that. I also did a background check and a few other things before he could spend a lot of time at the house. Just for peace of mind. He gave me the info and stuff up front. Now he and my DD are inseparable. They love to chat it up. They already have a plan set up for the zombie apocalyspe and have a date to see the movie Hotel Transylvania when he gets back from his work trip.

She drew him this yesterday. Trust me, it is possible!

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