Each time my son goes to his dad's for a visit, be it 4 hours or for the weekend the ex gives our six year old a shower. The ex is in the shower with him and insist on washing him. My son is quite capable of washing himself. He does it at home all time! The paternal grandma does this too although she does not get in with him. She just washes him and he has told my sis-in-law that it hurts! My son has talked about this to a therapist and said that dad will not listen to him when he tell him to stop with the showers. I called him and told him no more, but I don't know if he will listen to me either.