Should I be concerned

[Terriann13]

Each time my son goes to his dad's for a visit, be it 4 hours or for the weekend the ex gives our six year old a shower.  The ex is in the shower with him and insist on washing him.  My son is quite capable of washing himself.  He does it at home all time!  The paternal grandma does this too although she does not get in with him.  She just washes him and he has told my sis-in-law that it hurts!  My son has talked about this to a therapist and said that dad will not listen to him when he tell him to stop with the showers.  I called him and told him no more, but I don't know if he will listen to me either. 

[Andrewsmom70]

How old is your son?

Are they saying anything to him while scrubbing him so hard?

[shudderette]

Well, if you've told him it's inappropriate already then give him time to comply. If he doesn't I would be concerned, yes.

[ayacocca]

Pls be concerned.

[whitneymf]

i think that is wrong. i would be so mad if some girl was doing that to my son when he is old enough to shower on his own.

[Andrewsmom70]

Sometimes I still give my 6 yr old a bath but it's usually because he asks or because we need it done quickly. But most of the time he washes himself.

[Mommyto2LilMen]

I stand outside and wash both my boys' hair (4&6) because they don't wash the shampoo out enough.  Otherwise they shower all on their own.  I would be concerned knowing someone was in the shower with my 6 year old. 

[Robsessed98]

Is it possible he only has a shower and no tub? I understand your concern and agree you should talk them both about whatever he claims is hurting him. In bds defense though, at that age both of my girls could bathe themselves, but were too damn lazy or uninterested in actually doing it, so I still bathed them and occasionally made them use the shower instead of the tub. I really dont understand the problem with that... Maybe Im missing something here?

[Terriann13]

When I tell him it's time to take  a shower he does it on his own, washes his body and hair.  The only time he asks me for help is to make sure the soap is out of his hair.  His dad makes him shower with him in the shower even though he has a tub and he washes our son for him, all parts!  He has a shower like you would have in a locker room so there is enough room for one adult.  That is my concern.  He should be using his parenting time reading, talking, playing games, doing homework, learning about his son? Not showering with him EVERY time. Maybe if he is dirty?

[MeeshMom]

If your son isn't comfortable then his dad needs to leave him alone and let him shower alone. Does your son have a therapist? If not I'd take him to one. Whatever he spills to the doctor can be used in court. That's inappropriate of his father if he isn't comfortable. Some kids shower with their parents and its not a big deal but this sounds like it is since his dad is really pushy and controlling.

[easinpc]

Yes i would be concerned about it.