My daughters father and I were basically inseparable for 9 years. We were best friends and more. When I became pregnant, I knew it wouldn't be easy. He tends to run away from anything that is difficult to handle. We talked about it. He was very presitant on wanting to be there for the child he was going to work really hard on his "flighting" situation ect. Of course, this was wonderful news. However, I saw how it was going to be as I was pregnant. He wouldn't tell Anyone in his family (I was 30 weeks before he finally did) that I was even pregnant, would rarely come around, kind of stopped talking much to me in general. So I was ready to raise my daughter and not have much input from him.
As was expected when I had the little lady he didn't see her for her first year of life. He then brought me to court for "more" visitation. Which he never showed up for and saw her two times sometime after her first birthday.
Needless to say, my little girl doesn't remember him at all. She is now asking about him allot. I never want to lie to her about her Dad but I feel like she is looking for more from me than I am giving her. I don't know the line of protecting her and the line of the knowlege I know she needs to hear. As of now I tell her how every family is different. Some have a mom and dad, some have just a mom, just a dad. Some can have two moms or two dad ect. But all those kids with all the different families have the same love and fun that the other get to have. She wants more. She asked what his name was. So I told her. Then she told me to tell her he was dead. I told her that wasn't true and she started crying and told me to just tell her that. My heart is so broken for her.
As a parent you want to give your child the world and more and I feel awful I couldn't even give her a Dad. It breaks me to see her like this. Any input on how I should talk with her about this? How should I phrase these things?