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Does your Ex stalk your online activities? For instance, finding your posting here on CafeMom?

Posted by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:27 PM
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My daughter's dad, threw an amazing temper tantrum and blew up my phone in endless text messages last night. Some of his commentary clearly leads me to conclude he had searched for me online and found me posting here. 

I know he is obsessed like that, at least he was about the woman he was with prior to me. During our entire relationship he obsessed about her and followed her to great lengths online, always finding her blogs and postings even when she'd change names and web sites. I didn't think he would do it to me, because he made it clear I meant nothing to him, but last night some of his nasty comments to me via text make it pretty clear he has come here. It is sad, that I can't have my opinions and share them with other single mothers without being verbally abused for it.

I could have used another handle on here, but I don't feel I need to hide anything. He knows what I think of him and his life style, he knows my opinion of everything, I speak freely to him about it and hide nothing. So it isn't like anything he might read here is a surprise. 

Do any of you other mothers feel like you are constantly being followed and spied on - in your online life? Do you fear your ex will see what you write here?

by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:27 PM
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raegan1221
by Raegan on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:29 PM

 No...not that I am aware of. If my ex or any of my ex bf's did it or whoever..they wouldn't find anything juicy or anything I don't want them knowing/seeing. However I would feel an incredible feeling of invasion of privacy.

tttonice
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 8:46 PM

My ex also verbally abused me.  He would tap into my phone because he figured out my code in order to listen to my voice mails.  

Robsessed98
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:12 PM
No, my ex no more cares about where I am or what I say than I do about what he does.
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mhaney03
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:17 PM
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He did it while he was in iraq.. and i would change names.. but now I just don't care.

Barblicious
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:31 PM

It does feel like an invasion of privacy. It feel like every time I post now, I have him lurking somewhere over my shoulder ready to twist what I might post into some drama.

His sister was on my facebook for a while, then I found out she was showing him my private informtaion, and sharing it with him. It was such and invasion of my privacy for her to do that. 

I have a blog and I am very careful about what I write, but here I feel more free to discuss things, after all it is an open forum for single mothers. Should feel I have to censor everything I post here?

Quoting raegan1221:

 No...not that I am aware of. If my ex or any of my ex bf's did it or whoever..they wouldn't find anything juicy or anything I don't want them knowing/seeing. However I would feel an incredible feeling of invasion of privacy.


Barblicious
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:32 PM

That is totally illegal and stalker behaviour. YIKES! What did you do?

Quoting tttonice:

My ex also verbally abused me.  He would tap into my phone because he figured out my code in order to listen to my voice mails.  


Barblicious
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:34 PM

I don't care what he does, and I thought he certainly didn't care what I say or do. It was out of the blue to me, and I guess I am stunned at his behaviour? Thinking it is an ego thing? But no one here knows who he is, so what does it matter to him? So strange.

Quoting Robsessed98:

No, my ex no more cares about where I am or what I say than I do about what he does.


angelam0580
by Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:42 PM
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Fortunately for me my ex is to stupid to find me on here :)
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shudderette
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:44 PM
This :)


Quoting angelam0580:

Fortunately for me my ex is to stupid to find me on here :)

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ZakkarysMom
by Natasha on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:46 PM
I hope not!
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