I reached out by email and phone to the wife. She had done some digging and asked him about me previously, but he denied us being involved and me being pregnant! She believed him and left it alone. She was receptive and compassionate, but still believes her husband is not capable of turning his back on a child he knows is his. I emailed him some nasty things about him! She took offense and misunderstood so many comments in my emails. She honestly flipped my words and thought I was dissing her to get in between them, when I was not referencing her at all! I'm pretty sure he helped create that feeling for her. So she emailed me a really degrading email, and I didn't respond, just blocked her. Unfortunately for her, he has recentky added a few new online profiles soliciting discreet 1 on 1 sex! I found them by googling his screenname. He says he's married, but wanting side relations. This is why I say he's insincere in love. Anyhoo, The past 3 months I've had no contact with either of them, until yesterday. I filed child support when my daughter was 7 days old. She is a month now.
He was notified Monday by phone that he needed to contact my city's office. I called him yesterday to see if he returned the call. He in fact did, and has no problem paying child support. I was in shock, because last contact he was adamantly denying me and our unborn daughter! Well, I decided that since he wants to be involved, as he states (beyond CS) I would let him. I told him that even though he has not owned up to his indiscretions, I forgive him, because I must for our daughter's sale. I also called and made amends with his wife. They were the 2 most cleansing actions I have done since delivering. Why, you ask? Because when you forgive you make more room in your heart for love, peace, and joy. Forgiveness is for you.
I realize that bitterness and misunderstandings left unchecked create so much tension and unneeded drama. The air needed to be cleared in order for my daughter to be in her father's life, scumbag of a mate he is, he is a good dad to his other kids ( even her 2 that aren't his). I'd much rather risk the chance of sending my daughter for visitations to a non-hostile environment! So yea, my intentions are pure, but I also realize you must put out what you want to receive. Wish me and my daughter luck that all adults involved keep level heads and keep her best interest in mind. I just pray he is a better dad, and way more genuine, than he is as a partner. Rant over. Lol.