i hve a 14 year old son with diagnosed adhd and odd. it is not fun thats for sure.
i dont know, i make the rules up as i go. whe he was young, i found that spanking was ineffective. he would kick everyones ass the next day. i try to focus on the positive and reinforce good behavior.
i also have odd/adhd. i understand how my son feels. i also understand how frustrated my mom used to get. its not even evilness that makes us this way. its having problems with expectations. even if its not something i really hate doing, if i find out its expected of me, i feel like "well i dont want to do that" not even maliciously. its hard to explain.
Quoting faerie75:i hve a 14 year old son with diagnosed adhd and odd. it is not fun thats for sure.
i dont know, i make the rules up as i go. whe he was young, i found that spanking was ineffective. he would kick everyones ass the next day. i try to focus on the positive and reinforce good behavior.
i also have odd/adhd. i understand how my son feels. i also understand how frustrated my mom used to get. its not even evilness that makes us this way. its having problems with expectations. even if its not something i really hate doing, if i find out its expected of me, i feel like "well i dont want to do that" not even maliciously. its hard to explain.
try giving him a choice in what chore to do daily. mine chose dishes. he does them. he complains but i remind him he chose to do dishes.
what does he do? mine is not violent and he stays home and doesnt run the street. but getting him to do his school work is like pulling teeth, he gets in trouble with his teachers for doing dumb shit and he can be mouthy.
is he interested in any sports? my son is in football and if he is failing he cant play. it is also good for him to get energy out because if he does not get exercise, he gets ragey (im am the same). he has ps3 and sometimes i hate it. he gets hyper focused on it to almost obsession. i make him tkae a break. but if i take shit aw3ay, he does not care. thats why i try to give him positive goals if he does stuff as well as take things if he doesnt. i also tell him thigns like "i know you dont want to do this, i really dont want to go to work and support you but we all have to do things we dont want, its the real world. i would rather be doing something fun than cooking you dinner too" sort of gives him perspective.
Quoting cbad:
Well he does nothing after school..not doing school work either. He doesnt go nowhere but school ..store if is something to get Him...a friends house that we go to. He doesnt help around the house unless is his things he will clean up only. He doesnt go to steets yet! Every suggestion i have for him answer is no. All he wants is xbox which i took away before school started. All his ansers are so..i dont care..I dont have to and I dont want to..oh and before all that is Why??!! I told him when all his classed are passing he can play xbox but he didnt want to do tutorials nd now with first report card he probably fail all classes. On weekend he doesnt care to do nothing but be hone and recently he told me he doesnt tell me he wants to go out because I ask too many questions (2 is already alot for him)...
For neighbor with bipolar child- thats the thing he doesnt even have real friends and he doesnt really have a potty mouth..ive tried to have him go out with cousins nd friends nd diesnt want to..he just says no nd tht is gonna b boring nd i cant take tht hought out of his mind...
Scared to get out of my comfort zone
- cbad
on Oct. 11, 2012 at 4:07 PM