So this the issue I am having! I have a six yrs old daughter from a past relationship. My bf and I have been together since my daughter was two. When we had are son and broght him home...it was natural for me to say ,"go see daddy!" right? Well then my daughter started calling him daddy. I wish I would have explained it to her then or would have said something but on the flip side my bf didnt mind and I didnt want to "disrespect him and take that title away from him bc he was playing that role .Also I thought that we were a family, and were going to be married sometime. Well what four yrs later my bf and I have more issues then a couple who's been married for twenty yrs. I plan on having the "finial conversation" about what we both want, need, and except from one another. If things don't change ....I am ending this relationship once and for all ! I am so tired of being treated like shit, unhappy, miserable, feeling alone, no SEX!!! Just consent tension. I know my kids are hurting inside from this and Im done. I need advice so bad. This was my first relationship this long and this serious. I want to do what is best for us as a couple and most importantly what is best for are kids. What do I tell my daughter? What do I say when her brother goes to daddy's? Her biological father has and had nothing to do with her from day one. Im so stressed out from this and of course everything else that a mother stresses about on day to day basis! I need advice. I just want my children I to be happy,loved,respected, and appreciated. I have no clue how to handle this and how to move on from this. I know both my daughter and I will probably go to couseling . Also , I don't want her to feel like she is unloved and not wanted. I show her in many ways that I love her and support her in every way . We have "girl time" and all that fun stuff .... but us women know what a little girl will do if she wants that "male attention " later in life. I am not the type of women or mother who bounces from man to man to take of me and except NO man to take of me. I am very independant and I stand on my own two feet!