So, I've been a single mom since I was 3 months pregnant with my daughter. She'll be 2 in December. Is there some kind of trick to actually finding a decent guy that will date a single mother? I've talked to probably around 30 different guys from dating websites. Most would message me first with the usual "hey sexi hw u doin" (literally how they would be spelling and talking) or some other douche bag way of trying to get a woman to talk to them. A lot even would start the conversation with "so u dtf?" These are guys in their 20's, talking like they're still in high school. I never got replies after I told them I had a daughter on the way. I was talking to one guy who was 31, while I was still pregnant, he always told me that he would be with me and help take care of and support me and my daughter. He stopped talking to me a week before I had my daughter. His last message to me was, "I don't want to take care of another man's kid, I ain't dealing with no baby daddy drama." Then he blocked me from the dating website and blocked my number. A year later, I started talking to a 51 year old man on facebook. Started out as just friends, he was divorced, had a 17 year old son in high school, lived in Florida, I live in Texas. Wasn't really expecting anything to develop, long distance relationships don't work out. I was friends with him for about six months when we got more into a serious "friendship". He asked me to be his girlfriend, I was really skeptical about it, only because it was long distance, but I thought about it for about a week, and told him yes. Then he started talking about moving me and my daughter out to Florida to live with him and his son. Probably should have seen that as a big red flag. I told him I wasn't too sure about the idea, he dropped it. Few weeks go by, we had been talking regularly on Facebook, up til just recently. He stopped talking to me on October 3rd. I go to his profile, apparently he deleted me, I clicked the "send friend request" button, then clicked cancel request. I read his "about" section, it says: "will do anyone anywhere anyway ;) moving to Washington!!!" I've sent him a three messages since the 3rd. No replies, he was last logged in last night.
Well apparently I'm a douche bag magnet. Am I doing something wrong? Am I the problem? Has anyone else gone through stuff like this? Any advice?