I found out during my separation that I was married to a sociopath. He had been having an affair for three years and fathered two kids with this gf (now wife). I also learned that my ex has a split-personality disorder. Put these together and add severe money problems and you have my ex-husband. It's the most shocking thing I've ever had to deal with and I hope I will ever have to deal with. I've gone through hell and back with my ex. How can he just up and have an affair - live a dual life for three years, create children with another woman and remain married and have a relationship with me while he was active duty? The lies that my ex told me, my daughter, and his own parents will forever resonate with us. We all have come to the conclusion that my ex is severely mentally unstable. He even had the audacity to ask me to change our separation date to the date he became active duty just so he could convince his gf (now wife) and his employees that he had been separated the entire time he told them we were. He tried to embezzle money from me while he was having an affair. How can someone do this to his own wife of 26 years? He should be put in front of a firing squad and have me pull the trigger.
You were divorced from your ex when he decided to move on. Mine cheated on me for three years, and had children in the process. He will continue to lie to his new wife, have money problems and more than likely cheat again. I hope to hell that happens. He deserves to be kicked into the gutter.
It's still so new, it will take a while to get over it, and with a kid involved it is even harder! You have every right to be angry about him trying to get your son to keep secrets from you. that's just wrong!! I hope you are able to talk to him about it.
As for him posting things on FB, you can't control, but i'm sure people know he's an ass, so just try not to let it get to you, or delete him. i am not "friends" with lila's dad on FB. my boyfriend IS friends with him on FB because theyknew eachother outside of me, and even though I am totally over everything that happened between us, it's still hard seeing some of the things he posts, esp when he posts pics of him with his other kids without Lila there. :/ and that reminds me why i'm not friends with him! ugh.
I wish my ex's new wife wouldn't have a FB account. My DD, our friends and family really don't need to know what's going on with the homewrecker's new life. I mean, really? She's a homewrecker that has two kids with my ex. She has no respect for me, my DD nor my ex's extended family because she's now married to my ex. Yes, she has a new life and can have a FB account, but in all respect for herself as a homewrecker she should close her FB down or at least make it 'Private' not 'Public'.
Quoting steviechick:I found out during my separation that I was married to a sociopath. He had been having an affair for three years and fathered two kids with this gf (now wife). I also learned that my ex has a split-personality disorder. Put these together and add severe money problems and you have my ex-husband. It's the most shocking thing I've ever had to deal with and I hope I will ever have to deal with. I've gone through hell and back with my ex. How can he just up and have an affair - live a dual life for three years, create children with another woman and remain married and have a relationship with me while he was active duty? The lies that my ex told me, my daughter, and his own parents will forever resonate with us. We all have come to the conclusion that my ex is severely mentally unstable. He even had the audacity to ask me to change our separation date to the date he became active duty just so he could convince his gf (now wife) and his employees that he had been separated the entire time he told them we were. He tried to embezzle money from me while he was having an affair. How can someone do this to his own wife of 26 years? He should be put in front of a firing squad and have me pull the trigger.
You were divorced from your ex when he decided to move on. Mine cheated on me for three years, and had children in the process. He will continue to lie to his new wife, have money problems and more than likely cheat again. I hope to hell that happens. He deserves to be kicked into the gutter.
My son had to deal with this for a while when his stepmother was jealous of anything about me. She basically forbid my son from talking about anything related to his life with my side of his family. It was hurtful for my son. Thankfully his stepmom had her own child and realized how ridiculous she was being.
Having a child keep secrets is putting them in a no win situation. If they keep a secret from one parent and that parent finds out, they'll be hurt. And so will the parent that said to keep the secret if it's found out that the secret came out. Plus the child doesn't feel right keeping secrets.
Abortion
- Sj218
on Oct. 14, 2012 at 8:38 PM