Hi and welcome to the group. The only advice I can give you is to center your thoughts around your baby and your DD. Your ex is the one with the problems. I know you hurt and you are in pain. Not sure why our lovers hurt us the way they do, but they do. My ex left me for a co-worker he got pregnant twice. He kept his affair from me for three years until he deployed to Kuwait. I found out just five days after he told me of his first child (a 10 month old son) that his bimbo was pregnant yet again (later with a girl). Talk about shell shocked. I was literally dragged through the mud because my ex (of 26 years) decided to chase after someone 16 years his junior. So, I've been in your shoes. The only thing we can do for times like this is to direct our lives towards our kids and what's centered around them. The exes walked out on us because they are selfish jerks. Pray for them.
Hello & welcome :) The hard part is getting over the unexpected loss of your Ex; all the while being pregnant! Hurting and being confused are a given, but you will get through it and come out on the other side.
Did something happen between your daughter and the bf, did they not get along or is this something new? I would be a little suspicious of someone who all of a sudden used my daughter as an excuse to not be in our lives, especially after being around for years. That's a red flag for me.
As far as the new baby, how does your teen feel about it? Is she excited too? I ask because my oldest was 6 when I had the LO and she was so excited about being a big sister that it really helped. She still adores her little sister (now 10 and 4) and has been asking for more siblings. Having your oldest onboard will really help you a lot. Try to make her feel as important in the new baby's life as possible, encourage the big sister bonding and make her your "right hand man" when it comes to taking care of the baby. Big sisters are a huge blessing. Trust me.
It sucks the bf bailed but if that's the way he is then it's probably better that he left now. Concentrate on the kids and having a healthy pregnancy. Seek legal counsel to deal with the donor.
Good luck. You can do it and it will be ok. Just don't spend too much energy worrying about the ex. He's not worth it.
I am so sorry to hear about everything that you are going through right now. Hopefully with time things get better for you! Hugs!
Hi and welcome to the group.
Once baby comes it will ease up.
Good news, im so excited!
- Shea32
on Oct. 24, 2012 at 9:00 AM