My ex-husband has paid the same amount for CS since the order was first entered in 2000. Our son is now 15, and although I'm not paying childcare, I am paying for band, swimming team, and whatever else he may decide to do next. In the past his dad has helped with the extras so I left the CS alone. But, now it's a constant struggle to get anything "extra".
I'm currently unemployed (which makes paying for extras almost impossible!) and have an almost 3yo (by a sperm donor who may or may not pay his ordered $50 monthly because he's too lazy to work). My son's father is employed at the same place and now in management so I know he's making more than he was 12 years ago. He's remarried now and has 3 stepdaughters but, in NC, he's not legally financially responsible for them since their father pays CS. I really don't think they're hurting for money because they're always eating out, went to Florida/Disney world for vacation this year, plus he purchased a semi-new SUV so they could all travel together and his house should almost be paid for.
I don't want him to support me, or my daughter, but I feel like my son's getting screwed. His dad does everything for his new wife and stepkids. He rarely went to watch our son perform at halftime or competitions, usually calls to say he can't pick him up like he's supposed to because he has to get the girls or coach their softball or basketball when he was "too busy" to help while DS was playing, and he'll probably have reasons not to go to swim meets, too.
I'd "like" to raise the CS so I can make sure DS is able to do what he wants without asking his dad to help pay extra costs, especially since it's taken 15 years to actually put himself out there and be more active with school, but I don't know if it's worth starting a war with his dad. His dad isn't the type to bite his tongue, or even think before he speaks, so I'm afraid he'll take his anger about paying more out on DS and put him in the middle.
I'm seriously confused about what to do. On one hand, receiving more CS would help me pay for his extras and remove some stress here while I'm looking for work. A less stressed mom is a happy mom and a happy mom has happy kids. :) But, on the other hand, raising the CS could make DS time at his dad's pure hell. And, knowing my kid's going into a hostile environment, because of me, doesn't make me very happy :/