Leave a message for him saying you will only wait (however) many minutes before you have to leave because you have plans (even if you don't have plans!). Tell the kids up front, be ready to go with daddy, and if he doesn't make it, you'll be coming with me. Plain and simple. No drama.
I went through that all the time. I stopped telling my kids that daddy was coming to pick them up until I saw his truck pull into the parking lot. I would just say "daddy might be coming today". They will just have to get used to it. Kids adapt , they really do. WE are the ones who end up feeling so bad for them. And that sucks, I know.
But make sure the ex understands, you have a life and will only wait so long. If he misses his holiday with his kids...his fault, no one else's (though he'll probably still blame you anyways, that's what they do best.)
Good luck!
That doesn't mean you have to sit around for the 48 hrs after waitng for him. The time clearly states he picks them up at 2pm, so if it hits 230pm... That's waiting long enough. He needs to have responsibility of calling to let you know if he can't make it. Think of it as business, not personal. If he was going to be late for work, he needs to call (well, most people do!). The judge would agree with that.. I've been through it already.
Quoting alicia9804:
My divorce papers say he gets them from 2:00pm the day of the holiday n it starts his 48 hours and I don't want to get into trouble if i leave after so long of waiting.
Do everything in your power by calling him or have the kids call to verify time. If he doesn't show by the time he states within 1 hour, leave a note at your door where you will be and he can then pick them up from there. Or call just before leaving and tell him you are out the door and he can pick them up at the other person's home. If he doesn't show then it's no longer your problem. Just document it.
Quoting Chellie13:That doesn't mean you have to sit around for the 48 hrs after waitng for him. The time clearly states he picks them up at 2pm, so if it hits 230pm... That's waiting long enough. He needs to have responsibility of calling to let you know if he can't make it. Think of it as business, not personal. If he was going to be late for work, he needs to call (well, most people do!). The judge would agree with that.. I've been through it already.
Quoting alicia9804:
My divorce papers say he gets them from 2:00pm the day of the holiday n it starts his 48 hours and I don't want to get into trouble if i leave after so long of waiting.
if hes a flake dont even mention him coming until hes alrady on his way. if i was meeting him seomwhere, he needs to be there within 15 minutes or im the fuck out. if he picks them up from where i am, id give him leeway as long as he kept me posted.
Good news, im so excited!
- alicia9804
on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:32 PM