I found out that he has a new gf, that's fine and all but why lie to me giving me hope as if we where gonna be together again, I don't get it first he will be like yea I want you to be my girl but you gotta finish school, and get a job.
Then when it happens oh well I just need time , wtf then when we go and visit YOU instead of the other way around all you wanna do is have sex. I'm more mad at the fact that I was being led on that ill be a family with the father of my child, but instead was wasting my time just to stick around and find out he wanted to "pursue" something with someone else ( in his words).
Then one of his friends called me telling me how sorry she was for showing up at our court date that she knows now it was disrespectful and invasion of privacy, but that my baby daddy insisted that she go. Anyway she would constantly ask him when everytime he would call her that why is it he doesn't spend time with us and offer to take me out with our dd, she said he would call each of them everyday faithfully, asking what the plans where gonna be for them to do and when they would ask him why not spend time with us his answer
"She's busy and doesn't pick up my calls anyway" referring to me -_- like are you serious you call me when you feel like it and then when I ask you for diapers I never get them cause your always running "errands"
So now he doesn't call at all ever since I found out about his relationship.( mind you his gf has a daughter and everyone says he treats her like his own) but it is what it is, while I'm home everyday arguing with my mom about any and everything taking care of our dd and buying her the things she needs, he's off playing house with another girl and her dadughter.
All I can do now is be strong for her and let her know even without a father you will have my everything.
Your last sentence is what will keep you moving foward. You are much better off without the ex. It's best to just say "let it go" and only think about the ex if he wants to visit his child. I've learned that my ex isn't worth the agony or pain in my life. I've spent many, many years in misery and he was the reason why I was in such pain. I'd rather be alone then live with him. That's how awful he truly is.
I hope your ex does find the need and time to be a father, if not then he's missing out on a lot and a wonderful child. All the best to you, mama!
I'm sorry to hear that your ex lead you on but that is how some men are. At least your eyes are open to the whole situation now and you wont allow yourself to go down that path again. I would say take him to court if you haven't already get your child support and visitation rights on file that way if he choose not to show up that is squarely his fault.
I agree. As hard as it may be, just keep repeating that last line of your post to yourself. Hugs!
Quoting steviechick:
Your last sentence is what will keep you moving foward. You are much better off without the ex. It's best to just say "let it go" and only think about the ex if he wants to visit his child. I've learned that my ex isn't worth the agony or pain in my life. I've spent many, many years in misery and he was the reason why I was in such pain. I'd rather be alone then live with him. That's how awful he truly is.
I hope your ex does find the need and time to be a father, if not then he's missing out on a lot and a wonderful child. All the best to you, mama!
Quoting victoriahearts:I'm sorry to hear that your ex lead you on but that is how some men are. At least your eyes are open to the whole situation now and you wont allow yourself to go down that path again. I would say take him to court if you haven't already get your child support and visitation rights on file that way if he choose not to show up that is squarely his fault.
Quoting steviechick:Your last sentence is what will keep you moving foward. You are much better off without the ex. It's best to just say "let it go" and only think about the ex if he wants to visit his child. I've learned that my ex isn't worth the agony or pain in my life. I've spent many, many years in misery and he was the reason why I was in such pain. I'd rather be alone then live with him. That's how awful he truly is.
I hope your ex does find the need and time to be a father, if not then he's missing out on a lot and a wonderful child. All the best to you, mama!
prayers for all involved..
- Lynnster327
on Nov. 17, 2012 at 5:49 PM