Out of the blue on my FB. It was a shock because the I'd only met her a few times back when her brother and I were dating back in very early 2001. We haven't had any contact since then and both my ex husband and her never got along (very dysfunctional family/relationships).
So, yeah, out of the blue, she's sent me a message on FB asking how her niece is and how I'm doing, etc. Saying she's been trying to locate me for the past 5, 6 yrs when she learned that her brother and I divorced (apparently, she learned this info from cousins who still have contact with my ex). My ex husband never had anything nice to say about her and talked a lot of crap about her, her husband and their kids. I can't take it seriously because 95% of the crap that came out of his mouth was a lie. But because all I ever heard from him was how horrible she was, I'm wary of opening the door for some level of contact. And considering what I know from meeting their extended family, the whole clan was a train wreck.
She has no real contact with her brother or their cousins and lives in another state. I guess I'm wondering what you'd do in such a situation. I don't want to deny Monster a chance to know the other side of her family, but this is going to be some extreme baby steps. This will be the first contact with her father's side since she was 2 yrs old and she's 9 now.