My ex husband went to jail in November 2011. Since then we have had no contact (ordered by the court system for DV). His entire family had made this year the worst I've ever been through. We are both young (23&24) with two young girls 3&5. Over the last 5 years he has walked in and out of my childrens lives w/ no remorse. I had to beg his girlfriend to ask him to take my girls every wknd to help me out with daycare due to finances. I recently modified my CS & he is contesting it, and basically saying that him & his new gf need all the money they can get because she has 3 of her own children. She confronted me 2 days ago saying that if I push for more CS that her kids will suffer from my choices. Should I feel wrong about CS because he chose to get with a girl who has children? Or should I keep with my plan & not take into account that they have a full house to support also?
I agree with this. Good luck!
Quoting Andrewsmom70:
His first priority is to HIS kids. You have nothing to feel sorry for.
No, you shouldn't feel guilty for modifying the cs order. He is not financially responsible for his girlfriend's kids, she & the kids' dad are responsible for them.
You should never feel bad for putting your children first! His priorities are his biological kids, not someone else's kids! If he can't take care of his kids properly, he doesn't need to get with someone who has more kids unless she's financially able to care for her children 100%. They'll have to get over it. If he's making more money, he needs to be contributing more to his children, not his new girlfriend's children.
Going back to my maiden name
- DessaLinn
on Nov. 18, 2012 at 6:16 PM